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Being plus size can be a real issue sometimes, I am a size 12-16 depending on the store and although I’m the smaller of plus size ranges I still feel the hardships that many go through and understand the pain. Finding sizes in “straight” sized clothing stores such as American Eagle, Forever 21, Old Navy Etc is a very difficult task, although many now have plus size items, they don’t have them in store and looking online can be a difficult task for the shopper. (Not to mention, the sizes are different at every store! For example at Armani Exchange their jeans at a size 12 don’t even go past my knees, and H&M seems to run at least 2 sizes smaller in their bottoms almost always!)That is why when I found this list of various stores that cater to plus sized women I wanted to share! The bolded numbers are the sizes they carry to. I’m hoping this is a really compact and easy way to find items you love and can look FAB in without the pressure of going on a crazy hunt in the process! Looking fabulous is something that we can do at all sizes and at all price points, don’t ever give in to the thought that you are less than because society shoves that idea down our throats. You are damn fabulous! BELIEVE IT!
- Addition Elle14-26
- Anna Scholzuk 10-28
- Ashley Stewart12-32
- Big Bang Boutique1x-6x
- Chubby Cartwheels14-32
- City Chic14-24
- Domino Dollhouse1x-4x
- Evansuk 14-32
- Fashion To Figure12-26
- Forever 2112-18
- Hips and Curves16-28
- J Jill14-28
- Jessica London12-32
- Kiyonna10-32To finish this post I wanted to showcase 3 bloggers that I love and adore who are all plus sized and fabulous. They are such amazing role models and their blogs or youtube channels will always give you tips and trick to rock your size!
Hello all, after sending many submissions to the queue tonight I have realized many people who aren’t reading the full instructions when submitting your post. It’ is so important to do so because we have to become strict in our posting due to how many submissions we receive daily!
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(VERY IMPORTANT: THIS WILL NOW BE STRICTLY ENFORCED Read ALL the rules, before you even start your submission, DO NOT skim. Your post will be DELETED if you don’t follow ALL the rules. Once in the queue, I cannot recollect it and it could be a whole month before it is posted):
A) Check Body Peace Oath and FAQ before submitting
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1) Avoid mirror shots, if you absolutely must, please avoid the reflection of light from the flash, avoid the camera being seen in the shot. We hope for more portrait style photos. These are merely for uniformity/presentation purposes for the blog.
2)You do not have to expose your body, we’d just like to see YOU. As a challenge, see what you can do in a photo to express yourself, or conquer a fear, or express vulnerability. Do what you can; we just hope you feel proud of your post!
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8) If you think your photo might be triggering, submit it as a link instead of a photo, with the title “Trigger Warning for photo of cutting scars/bones etc.” For more explanation on trigger warnings, see number 4 under the ‘Text’ heading below.
9) DO NOT send us nudes or topless photos if you are under the age of 18
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C) TEXT: We now have a specific guideline towards text captions. More than anything we are here to talk about our minds, not our actual bodies, this is about self-esteem, this is about confidence and loving yourself. This is about what we believe and why we believe it, what incited our negative body image and what steps are we taking to change it. I want to spread awareness of what it is that manipulates us into thinking so negatively about ourselves and what different ways there are to recovery from that pattern of thought.
1) Do not mention your BMI (it is an invalid measurement of health, check FAQ for more info)
2) NO NEGATIVE BODY TALK: Do not say “I hate my” or “my… is so ugly” instead say, if you must, say, “I have an insecurity with my… “ Also do not demean other body types or generalize , DO NOT say “all women have curves ”, “thin is gross”, “I felt fat and gross”. Neither body type is a negative. If anything say “I am insecure about my size (or other body part) because I was taught to believe it was wrong and/or “ugly”, but I am working on changing the way I think”
Your submission needs to attempt to motivate others, in effect, motivate yourself. No progress is made if we are stuck in the negative, no progress is made if you see continue your insecurities as a bad thing, it ends today.
3) Make positive and encouraging statements for both yourself and the reader. If you currently have low-self esteem, tell us what steps of action you are taking to change the way you think about yourself. This includes: mirror work, eliminating negative influences (media outlets or certain people in your life), meditation, therapy, a mantra you practice, this is about changing the way we THINK. If your course of action is to change yourself physically, the same rules apply, you need to be at peace mentally, have the ability to love yourself no matter what, because ultimately there is no need to be so stressed out about the way we look.
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TW: fatphobia, sizeism, classism, and just straight up bullying:
I recently filmed a response to @abercrombieandfitch about their CEO’s comments about not carrying any sizes higher than a size ten and his reasons for doing so.
Perpetuating hate and sizeism and this elitist attitude is really hurtful.
Let me know what your thoughts are on the whole shabang and feel free to comment on the video and let me know!
The blogpost I mention in the video can be found HERE, I share many stores for those in need of plus size fashion, as well as some amazing fashion inspirations for plus size beauty!
- Katie (youtube.com/katiescarlettspeaks)
My 2013 New Year’s Resolution Revolution!
More: water, fruits & vegs, art, SEX, writing & reading, self-care, dates w/hubby, LIPSTICK, and movement (walking, wheeling, weights, stretching)
Less (or fewer): foods that make me sick, pills (more natural treatments), sleeping in & late nights, spending $$, sugar, TV, computer, iPod
I will wear what is comfortable and makes me happy— not only what is flattering.
I will stand up for myself to doctor’s and ask for the accommodations I need!
I will remember that I am NOT a burden.
I will continue to train Cash Puppy as a service dog.
I will improve my time management skills.
Most of all, I will be EASIER on myself, and continue the progress I have made in accepting my body and loving my life.
Happy 2013, Lovelies!
According to Seventeen Magazine, my BMI is 0.4 away from being “overweight.” Despite the reasons why using BMI as a measure of health is complete and utter bullshit, I have to applaud this magazine for a relatively nice try at making me feel horrible about myself. First of all, great job at putting my lowest weight during my eating disorder (considered underweight by an actual medical doctor) in the “healthy” weight range, as well as putting one of my closest Tumblr friend’s current BMI in “healthy” as well, even though she’s at the lowest weight of her anorexia. Secondly, fantastic use of brainpower for making 20+ the only ages that are allowed to have an actual healthy range.
Thirdly, and most important of all, thank you for getting me so worked up that I took pictures of my self-loathed, unmade up, and zit-covered body, and am posting them on the internet. Thank you for making this thought click in my head: All I want to do is accept myself. Who cares what other people think of my body?
See, I know I’m not overweight. I feel and see myself as obese 99% of the time, but I know that I’m physically at a normal weight. I’m in recovery (and have been for about four months) for an eating disorder and depression that nearly cost me my life, but not once have I felt comfortable enough with my body to post anything like this online. I’m still not sure about it as I’m typing these words.
But seriously. This has to stop. In what world is a twelve-year-old nearly four points underweight “healthy”? In what world am I nearly overweight, when in reality I have three or more points to spare?
Yeah, maybe a part of me wants to get down to the 14.8 BMI that’s so-called “healthy” for my age. But maybe a bigger part of me is so done with people being so concerned with weight and looks. Maybe a bigger part of me wants to personally have the extreme pleasure of shutting down companies that are this idiotic. Maybe a bigger part of me doesn’t even care what I look like, as long as my body is functioning and enabling me to live my life.
Because what is a body? A body is a shell. A body is not a soul. But a body helps that soul.
A body is a laughing machine, a crying machine. A smiling, frowning, and thinking machine. It lets you read, it lets you play music, it lets you run and play sports and sit on the couch watching movies. It alerts you when you need fuel, it alerts you when there’s danger, it alerts you when you’re excited. It gives you those loved and hated “butterflies.” It connects itself with other human beings. It does homework, studies, blows off studying, and lets you take walks. It pets your animals, plays with little kids, and climbs mountains. It looks good in your favorite outfits, and it kisses your favorite person.
Who cares what size it is? When you add up all of the things it does for you, the least you can do is be proud of it and accept it. Maybe even love it.
So, Seventeen Magazine. You tried to make me feel shit about myself. Nice try.
i’m glad you asked this question. I could only watch about 10 minutes of it before I was so disgusted I had to turn it off.
It was just a play on the same old sad stereotypes of ‘fat is unhealthy’, ‘fat is lazy’ ‘fat is disgusting’ etc. etc. etc. And it’s disappointing because South Park usually has really good commentary on popular culture.
You know what, I APPLAUD Honey Boo Boo and her family. They’re not your typical ‘attractive’ family, but they obviously love each other and they’re happy. That counts for a lot more than their education level or their weight.
Fat people have no shame? Fat people have no shame? Has anyone who created that episode EVER spoken to a fat person? ANY fat person, any chubby person, hell, the majority of ‘average’ people have been ‘shamed’ for being too fat. They’ve been told over and over that they’re lazy, ugly, no one will ever love them, they’ll never get a good job, they don’t deserve nice clothes, I could go on forever.
Fat people don’t ask for special treatment, as this episode depicts. Fat people ask for equal treatment. To have the ability to do the same things normal people do. Like being comfortable in a movie theatre, or to be able to go on an airplane without paying double. Or even more importantly, having GOOD and complete healthcare that doesn’t consist of ‘just lose weight and all your health problems will go away.’ That’s not having no shame.
There is a problem in this country, I’m not denying that. People aren’t eating well enough. People aren’t exercising enough. But you know what, that goes for thin people too. There are millions of thin people who eat junk, are sedentary, and end up with the same diabetes, hypertension, heart problems, etc. that the medical community likes to pretend only fat people can get. (Fun fact, 75% of obese people never get diabetes.)
The problem is not fat. The problem is lack of access to healthy food and exercise. THAT’S what needs to be fixed. And not by programs like Let’s Move!, which was funded by a 13.6% cut to the SNAP (food stamp) program, which means that low-income families, which are already proven to be more likely to be obese, are even less able to afford healthful food.
It’s a much, much bigger problem than the size of someone’s jeans. Regardless of someone’s size or health, NO ONE should be shamed like that. Not your body? Not your business. I’m really, really disappointed that South Park couldn’t do better.
I really enjoy the rare opportunity I get nowadays to dress up!
(especially when I actually get to wear heels)
It does wonders for my self image, ya know?
“your body is a whole entire beautiful magical universe
of its own, exactly right and perfect.
i know that this is not what you have been taught, but it is The Truth.
how could anything so incredible ever be denigrated,
scoffed at, invaded, discounted, spat on, violated, ridiculed?
your body is magic.
what you are thinking now is:
why was i told to look at charts, diagrams, scales
and teen magazines to tell me what is wrong with me?
why wasn’t i told to trust myself?
why did they make me feel like a horrifying ugly
pathetic puking loathsome monster,
if the truth is that i am magic?”
By: Nomy Lamm
This weekend I hosted a party at my house for 7 young girls who were 14 heading into high school in the fall.
I did this because I went through a lot of self hatred, self harm, an bad relationship, all on top of school work and it was really, really hard. So I wanted to have a night to be real and hang out with these girls and give them some advice on how to better love themselves and have a better high school experience…
It was wonderful! They all loved it and want to do it again, and they really loved being able to talk about issues that were pressing on them and frustrated them.
But at the same time it was also sad, because every single one of these 7 girls was upset about some aspect of their bodies, their stomachs weren’t flat enough, their eyes were too far apart, they looked to young, they had ugly hair, they hated their chests… The list could go on and on, and it’s so sad that this is the case for almost every girl I know at this age.
Girls, I write this to you today to say:
You are beautiful, you are worthy of all the love you receive and you are worthy of so much more than even that!
Your stomachs are beautiful at any size, your eyes are gorgeous, your hair is wonderful, you, yes you… are AHMAYZINGGGGGGG!
Take time to work on your heart and your mind, and in time you will be able to see this on a daily basis.
You. Are. Wonderful.
I’ve decided to do this as a sort of series for SHYB, I’ll post ideas as they come to me, but as an art student and someone who always wants something fun to do I thought this would be good for you guys to decorate your rooms with, your lockers with, etc!
Let me know in my ask box if you love the idea and reblog if you plan on doing it yourself! Submit photos of your Self Love Creations as well :) <3
SO LET IT BEGIN!
Self Love Reminder Jars.
Go to your local wallmart, grocery store, even goodwill or salvation army! Pick up a mason jar (if you can only get them in packs then make these for friends too!).
Now you can leave your mason jar as is, or decorate it if you’d like, a fun way I suggest is to take Modge Podge (found in wallmart, canadian tire, lowes) and paint it on the inside of your jar and then pour your favourite colour glitter into the jar till it covers the entire thing. For a more visual description of how to do this here is a video Ingrid made doing the same thing to a candle jar
Then when you are finished this and are waiting for this to dry, rip up small pieces of paper and write positive things about yourself, be it physical, or your great qualities or write down dreams you have and you want to achieve! enough so the jar is full to the brim, and screw on the lid.
On top of the lid
Write “You Are Beautiful” or create a really cool glittered lid to go with it!
Whenever you feel down and need some lifting up, take the jar and read one of the notes or however many you need to read to make you feel better <3
Or keep it by your bed and read it every morning when you wake up, and every night before you go to bed!
Beauty is all around us, fill yourself up with something beautiful and spread it to others!
I hope you all have a really great Tuesday, and have a great time making these!
A long time ago when I was in therapy my doctor suggested the possible idea of using my art skills to release my temptations when it came to self harm and self hate, be it the physical harm I wanted to do to myself or the emotional verbal harm. His idea was I should create a trigger page in my journal or sketchbook and write out or draw all of the things I wanted to do or say.
Taken with instagram
I wish I’d had someone take photos of what my belly looked like through this whole process. This is today’s Cancer Belly.
It’s hard to see but on either side of my belly button are two ovalish scars, those are from the scopes they had to put in during surgery. The black square in the center is the foam of the wound vac. The vertical line just below it (and above my belly button) is the beginning of the scar from the incision. When they first put in the wound vac… it was 9cm long and the taped section and foam covered all the way to (and over) my belly button.
My stomach used to be smooth and round, stretch marked, but scarless. Now, I have almost no stretch marks, a ridge where my weight loss has happened a bit unevenly, and the last remaining square of wound-vac… plus so many little scars and areas where my skin is irritated from the wound-vac tape.
This is my body now. For now. In another week… this will look completely different again. Every day, it’s a little bit different and I have to readjust… relearn, re-love what is in front of me.
It’s not easy. It’s not automatic. But I do it. I try to love what I see in the mirror. Because I won’t be able to do this if I can’t.
It will be better when the wound vac is gone (hopefully this week). I can’t believe how small it is now.
How far I’ve come. How far there is still to go.
This is my body for now. And today I learn to love it all over again. And tomorrow… I will relearn how to love it. And the next day, and the next. And eventually this will all be over and I will learn to love my Cancer-free body in whatever shape or size it may be.
But for today, I learn to love this. Because this is what I have. Because for today, this is me.
If I can do this, so can you. To anyone who struggles with what they see in the mirror… you CAN love what’s there. You can. I know you can. Because every day I get up and I look at the changes that have happened— without my permission, without my effort, without my desire… and I learn, every. single. day. to re-love the body that stares back at me.
You can LOVE your body. I believe in you.
This is Sarah! You can read more about her story here and donate to help get her through the next few months!
Femininity (Taken with instagram)
Something I drew inspired by Kim Crosby’s speech at TO’s S.W.
It’s just a rough copy at the moment, I hope to have it finished before summers up, the script reads:
"Femininity in all bodies is discriminated against because of the negative meaning to being female, it is not our gender that needs to change, but these systems of oppression that award privelage to some at the expense of others. (Kim Crosby) I will not apologize for this body I am blessed with! I will not be shamed for who I am!"
I love the words here and I think every woman should hold fast to these phrases and meditate on the understanding that we are not WRONG, that we are what we are and shouldn’t be faced with pain and hurt because of this.
<3 work towards loving yourselves today guys <3
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