Posts tagged selflove
Posts tagged selflove
I see you.
I SEE YOU.
I see that it takes all of you to get out of bed in the morning,
that you are using all your strength to dress and clothe yourselves,
that sometimes it feels like the effort to walk to the door is so much-
so you don’t.
I see you.
I see that sometimes you’re overwhelmed by this invisible weight weighing on you so heavily that you can’t continue.
I see you.
I know that you put your every, single, bit of strength into just being here.
Body love and body positivity doesn’t come easy for a lot of us, and sometimes we can fall into emptiness and that is something that needs to be combatted by help from others.
You’re all amazing- you’re worth it and you’re not alone <3
I’m 21. I have been struggling with EDNOS for about a year and with body image issues for my whole life. This photo was taken the day after a two-day binge. And I’m still okay. There are times that I want so badly to be back at my lowest weight, where malnutrition and overexercising had me losing my hair and not getting my period. But I look at this photo, and despite everything my eating disorder is telling me, I kind of like how I look. I kind of think I look…good.
Day 9: Happy Healthy Holiday Series | Eating Disorders and Holiday Food!
This time of year is treacherous territory for those dealing with eating disorders of any kind, and it’s important to have a tool kit of coping skills to rely on- also a friend or family member to count on!
If you or anyone you know needs a place to find comfort for this season or encouragement please come over to stopchasingclouds- We can do anything together.
Recovery IS POSSIBLE.
YOU ARE A BEAUTIFUL AND STRONG AND WONDERFUL PERSON REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOU PUT IN YOUR BODY.
REMEMBER SEND ME YOUR SELF LOVE AFFIRMATIONS #stopchasingcloudschallenge
I’m trying to accept myself for who I am, and this is the first step. I realised that I’ve seen girls on here that I’ve thought were SO GORGEOUS and then noticed that I look the same as them; why should I be feeling horrible when I look at these girls and only see beauty? I shouldn’t and neither should you beautiful people!
Thank you for making this site and to all the people supporting this! <3 <3 You’re all beautiful, ALWAYS!
I’ve always been skinny. I got bullied in school for about 6 years, until I was 15 and changed schools. I got called ugly all the time, and frequently got asked whether I was anorexic. One of the kids who bullied me even told me that I had an awful looking nose and I should get surgery. We were both about 13 at the time. How fucked up is that?
Because of the bullying, I’ve had self-esteem issues for as long as I remember. Because I got called ugly all the time, I ended up believing that I was the ugliest girl in school — no, the ugliest girl in the whole world! Puberty came along and all the girls started developing, and I stayed skinny, with the tiniest hint of hips and breasts. Most of my friends made fun of my tiny breasts. I also realized while growing up that I had a bit more body hair than most girls my age (probably not noticeable in the photo), which made me extremely insecure. I haven’t gone to the beach and much less worn a swimsuit since I was 13.
I was extremely insecure. I felt that I didn’t look like a “real woman” because I was skinny. I felt that I was a freak because everyone kept repeating that I was too thin. I thought that I couldn’t be sexy because I couldn’t get a cleavage, or because every other girl looked more voluptuous under their clothes than I did. People say that accepting compliments helps in feeling better with your body, but what good is that when no one compliments you?
I’m now 18 and I’m slowly starting to change the way I view myself. First, who the hell decided I was ugly? Some kids? Who cares? Who decides which certain features make someone “ugly” anyway? What makes small breasts worse than bigger ones, or vice-versa? Why is being thin better than being fat, or vice-versa? It just doesn’t make sense. Who makes the rules, and under what logic? Why should there be any rules at all?
Fuck that. I’m not ugly. No one is ugly just because some kid or some magazine says so. No one has to alter their body to fit anyone’s standards!
And yet, I still don’t fully accept myself. I often catch myself wishing I had a curvier body or bigger breasts, but whenever that happens, I try to rationalize. Would different breasts make me more beautiful? Would they make my life any different? Of course not. I don’t need my breasts to change to be happy. I can be happy just by accepting myself, because there’s nothing wrong with the way I look.There’s nothing wrong with the way anyone looks!
Don’t underestimate your value because you are worth every minute of happiness, joy, peace, and every minute of self love, and care.
You are worth it.
Hey you beautiful people! This is me in my body I’ve just started to love.
Since elementary school I’ve been that chubby kid that the others have judged by her looks. It was hard for a 7-year-old me to handle all the comments and personal problems at home… It lead to exclusion and self-hatred. Like it wasn’t enough, in 7th grade my “friends” and parents started to comment my weight. Even my nurse was proud of me when I managed to lose a couple pounds.
Finally, after moving away and going to high school where I’m accepted as who I am, I became more self-confident. Last summer I noticed that I didn’t hide my body under oversized clothes anymore. Using tank tops and skinny jeans is totally fine now. But the thing that really opened my eyes happened this fall when my friend said that I’m not any heavier than couple of my other friends even I had always thought so.
So, believe me, YOU are beautiful, I am beautiful, EVERYONE is beautiful!
I used to be insecure with my body, especially during middle school. I’m 20 now and have only recently begun to love my body. I still have moments where I think that my tummy sticks out too much or my thighs are too big, but I try instead to think about the things I love about myself, like my smarts or sense of humor, or that my body does so much for me without thanks. It has also helped to realize that most people in the world don’t actually pay that much attentionto me, and my weird cowlick or pimple on my face undoubtedly went unnoticed this morning. I’ve realized that it’s much less stressful to accept who I am than it is worrying about all the things I could ever think to change.
Good morning you guys! What’s happening?
In the face of a miserable day about to be I’m looking it dead on and saying “NO! Screw you I’m gonna make this day amazing!”
Join me 😊
What are 5 things you’re thankful for today? What are 5 things you like about yourself today? Post it and tag me #stopchasingcloudschallenge
Katie’s been working on a 30 day vlog challenge dedicated to helping those dealing with recovery- that could be recovery with self harm, eating disorders, negative self hate behaviours of any kind, or those who are struggling through the holiday season with mental health.
It’s a tough time of year and sometimes talking it out helps!
IF YOU HAVE ANY VIDEO REQUESTS OR QUESTIONS FOR HER SEND THEM HERE
And if you’re dealing with any of these issues and need some resources to find help in your area or deal with some negative behaviours? CLICK HERE
Make this holiday season about falling in love with yourself and learning to accept yourself! Make daily self love affirmations on your blog (at least 5) and tag them #stopchasingcloudschallenge !
You’re all worth the effort for recovery, and self love sometimes it just takes time and patience and knowing someone out there cares!
Sometimes it’s really hard to be positive, especially when it feels like the odds are against us.
But it can make a world of a difference just welcoming positivity into your life, be it by sweeping clean your Facebook/tumblr ”friends” of toxic people, following more positive blogs and getting away from things that my trigger negative thoughts or behaviours.
Baby steps toward positivity slowly creates a better environment and you can slowly start to eliminate the outside negativity in your life that you can at least control!
It’s not something that can help everything but it does make a difference and is worth the effort <3
I love you all- stay strong!
Sometimes Fashion Sucks:
This week has been a bad week in the fashion department for me. As much as I want to love it I really hate the fashion world we live in where discrimination against size is so drastic. I want to live in a world where bodies are respected and adored for the hard work they do everyday to give us what we love, not judged for what we perceive as healthy based on the standards of photoshop and Top Model.
I’m sick of living in a society that shames us into thinking we’re unworthy and that we don’t belong, and perpetuates this unhealthy mindset all toward the goal of looking “healthy”.
Health comes in all shapes and sizes, stop pretending that it doesn’t.
I recently had some bad experiences shopping and it was really weighing on me and I thought I would share.
I feel for all of you going through the same garbage, and I feel for those of you that have it worse than me with bigger sizes. We need more people to realize that cutting off fashion at a size 12 isn’t fair and we deserve to be seen!
Hi Everyone. Recently I’ve created my style blog: Katie Scarlett Speaks- and I’d love for any of you interested in fashion, beauty and daily life journals to check it out and follow if you like it! As a plus size, body positive girl I make a point of creating a positive space for all sizes to come and discuss fashion and beauty and feel accepted by a fashion world that always tells them NO.
If you have video ideas, review requests, questions and more feel free to message me and I’ll answer/create them for you!
As always, continue sharing your stories as they impact and unite us all. We love sharing them and reading them!
Being plus size can be a real issue sometimes, I am a size 12-16 depending on the store and although I’m the smaller of plus size ranges I still feel the hardships that many go through and understand the pain. Finding sizes in “straight” sized clothing stores such as American Eagle, Forever 21, Old Navy Etc is a very difficult task, although many now have plus size items, they don’t have them in store and looking online can be a difficult task for the shopper. (Not to mention, the sizes are different at every store! For example at Armani Exchange their jeans at a size 12 don’t even go past my knees, and H&M seems to run at least 2 sizes smaller in their bottoms almost always!)That is why when I found this list of various stores that cater to plus sized women I wanted to share! The bolded numbers are the sizes they carry to. I’m hoping this is a really compact and easy way to find items you love and can look FAB in without the pressure of going on a crazy hunt in the process! Looking fabulous is something that we can do at all sizes and at all price points, don’t ever give in to the thought that you are less than because society shoves that idea down our throats. You are damn fabulous! BELIEVE IT!
- Addition Elle14-26
- Anna Scholzuk 10-28
- Ashley Stewart12-32
- Big Bang Boutique1x-6x
- Chubby Cartwheels14-32
- City Chic14-24
- Domino Dollhouse1x-4x
- Evansuk 14-32
- Fashion To Figure12-26
- Forever 2112-18
- Hips and Curves16-28
- J Jill14-28
- Jessica London12-32
- Kiyonna10-32To finish this post I wanted to showcase 3 bloggers that I love and adore who are all plus sized and fabulous. They are such amazing role models and their blogs or youtube channels will always give you tips and trick to rock your size!
(Images of Self love from SelfLoveU.com Credit to: Jenna Ryan)
Self love is a tricky one, you can’t gain it without sad realizations that maybe not everyone out in this world is there for you, that maybe not everyone out there in the world will like the way you look. You have to learn to accept your differences, and your “imperfections”, you have to realize that you aren’t always strong enough to handle situations on your own. It also means that sometimes being alone, and your own best friend is all you’ll have so make peace with yourself now, otherwise it will be harder when that time comes.
These are some things I’ve learned the hard way, and I thought I’d make a list to help you all have an easier time of it. You’re amazing, learn to realize that as soon as you can, because when you do, you’ll be so happy.
1) Admitting Your Mistakes: harbouring negative prideful feelings just perpetuates unneeded negativity and stress in your life. If you’re trying to cover up a mistake, or draw attention away from it, you’re creating an overwhelming task for yourself just based on your own pride. Accept that you made a mistake, and take that in stride when you move forward!
2) Blissfully Being Alone 3) Your Own Best Friend: SO IMPORTANT! You cannot be happy with others be that intimately or just as friends without first learning to be happy with yourself alone. Without this you become dependent on your counterparts and being alone is a much more difficult experience causing anxiety and loneliness.
4) Forgive Yourself! Sometimes we all make mistakes, it’s hard and it’s painful but holding in that sadness and self doubt and hate only perpetuates your suffering when there is no need. Recently I lost a lot of important photos because of computer trouble, it wasn’t my fault but I took on this responsibility and hated myself for what happened. Only when I talked about how I was feeling and let it all out was I able to realize that it would all be okay, the world hadn’t stopped and I could keep going and learn from this. YOU NEED TO FORGIVE YOURSELF!
5) Facing Reality: Life doesn’t work the way you want it to in most cases, you need to realize this sooner than later. End of story.
6) Ask for help!: Sometimes our own pride gets in the way of our potential to grow and progress in our work, and in our lives. You need to ask for help if you have difficulties with something! It is better to ask and succeed, than to let your pride get into the way causing you to fail in a more obvious and substantial way in the end.
7) Take Time for Hobbies: As an artist I know how important this truly is, taking time for yourself and what you enjoy aside from work and family life is very important. You need the time to get inspired, grow emotionally/intellectually and live life to the fullest! ALWAYS TAKE THE CHANCES YOU HAVE TO HAVE FUN!
8) Embrace “Imperfections”: We’re never going to attain perfection in societies eyes, so before you say your freckles, belly rolls, thunder thighs, scrawny wrists/ankles, thin hair, thick hair, curly hair, straight hair, dark skin, olive skin, pasty white skin, etc; are bad things- THEY’RE NOT! It’s what separates you from the rest!
9) Bonding With Yourself: take time every week to wind down and have your own time, if you have the money go out for a spa day, if you don’t? Have your own at home spa day making all natural products! Get a book you love, go someplace nostalgic, go see a movie alone that you’ve been wanting to see!
In the end, it’s all about self love, and you need to work hard to maintain it but it is so worth it in the end!
I hope you all find your happiness!