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StopHatingYourBody
On a mission to live a body positive life
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New post on Adipose Activist: Avoiding Holiday Shame!
In this post I offer some advice on avoiding talk from family members about your body, diets, and weight loss.
Hope you find it helpful! :)
Reblogging this again because I think it’s really important. You do NOT have to feel guilty about what you put in your mouth tomorrow. You do NOT have to be made to feel ashamed about your choices or your body by your family tomorrow. What you do with your body does not have to be a topic of conversation.
Enjoy your holiday! :)
New post on Adipose Activist: Avoiding Holiday Shame!
In this post I offer some advice on avoiding talk from family members about your body, diets, and weight loss.
Hope you find it helpful! :)
Why Self-Hatred is a Bad Idea
1. If you currently hate, or can’t live with, yourself there’s a very good chance that you believe a lot of lies. That is, lies that you’ve been told, and then accepted for yourself.
2. There’s only one you – and you’re truly valuable. You have special gifts and talents, and life experiences. And there’s a unique role that only you can play in life.
3. There’s always someone that you matter to. Even though, when we’re depressed, that is sometimes hard to see. You really matter to someone – and they truly care for you.
4. Even when things go wrong there is still a chance for change. There is hope for everyone – and change is possible. Keep on looking, keep on trying … and one day you will get there.
5. You were made to be loved and experience happiness. It is part of who we are – to keep living and keep dreaming. You deserve to find fulfilment – so don’t give up on yourself.
Be proud of your body and what it can do!
I debated doing this for a while, I’ve always been embarrassed about my legs. I’ve never fit into skinny jeans and through middle school and high school I barely wore shorts in the summer.It took a lot of soul-searching and a lot of work to realize just how magnificent my legs are. Hundreds of miles and hours of Taekwondo later, I realize that these legs are strong. Powerful. Glorious. They’ve carried me through rough roads and smooth waters with grace and ease.
I’m a size 13 in jeans and I wouldn’t change a thing.
What part of your body do you love?
What do you wish you could love?
However small, your body is a miracle machine and its unbelievable.You’re beautiful.
GPOY: “No Frills November” Edition.
I’m 20 days into NFN and this is the first I’m blogging about it. Partly because I didn’t think I’d make it this long, but mostly because I wanted to see if I could hold myself accountable for something this far outside my comfort zone without that voice in my head saying, “But Tumblr’s watching, you have to do it!”
Basically, NFN is this thing of where I’m not dolling myself up one single day this month. I’m learning to like the way my natural face and nails look. I’m learning to feel comfortable being in public in “sloppy” attire. I’m learning to like the natural wave in my hair. I am learning to forgo what looks good in lieu of living in a way that feels good.
“I don’t give a damn what men find attractive. It’s unfortunate what we find pleasing to the touch and pleasing to the eye is seldom the same.” — Fabienne, Pulp Fiction
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Oh my god, I am SO PROUD of my school!
I just came across this brochure and it has great facts and stats about how diets don’t work and how to maintain positive body image. I was floored! It even has tips on media manipulation and the rise of eating disorders.
It’s SO validating to see this kind of stuff in real life, offline and not just on tumblr. I can’t tell you how happy it made me!
Call for submissions!
Hey everyone! Our queue is running really low right now, and I’d love to have some more stories to get us through the next few weeks! If you’ve been thinking about submitting, now would be a GREAT time! Don’t forget that if you want to make your post anonymous, we have no problem with that!
Other things I wanted to mention:
- We’ll be looking for a new mod or two soon in the near future, someone who’s got access to posts and info and connections to great blogs run by/for POC, trans*, disabled, and other groups that don’t get as much exposure as we’d like. So if you’ve got a few spare hours a week and don’t mind queueing submissions, answering questions, and finding body positive posts, especially body positive from the aforementioned groups, to put in our queue, start thinking about applying! I’m going to make up an application process and hope to have it up and running soon!
- Have you seen a post that you think NEEDS to be on SHYB? Submit the link to us! You can either send us a fanmail with the link, or just use the submit page!
- We’ve got nearly 50,000 members here at SHYB, and it’s impossible for us mods to be able to go through every comment to every post. If you see someone making any negative comments on a post, or concern trolling, PLEASE inform us (you can submit the link to the post the offending comment/s are on) so we can take care of it! We all have to work together to keep SHYB as positive as possible!
- If you don’t already, feel free to follow us on Twitter and like our Facebook page! :D
I think that’s about it! Thanks for following, thanks for joining the revolution, and thanks for being you!
Love,
Call for submissions!
Hey everyone! Our queue is running really low right now, and I’d love to have some more stories to get us through the next few weeks! If you’ve been thinking about submitting, now would be a GREAT time! Don’t forget that if you want to make your post anonymous, we have no problem with that!
Other things I wanted to mention:
- We’ll be looking for a new mod or two soon in the near future, someone who’s got access to posts and info and connections to great blogs run by/for POC, trans*, disabled, and other groups that don’t get as much exposure as we’d like. So if you’ve got a few spare hours a week and don’t mind queueing submissions, answering questions, and finding body positive posts, especially body positive from the aforementioned groups, to put in our queue, start thinking about applying! I’m going to make up an application process and hope to have it up and running soon!
- Have you seen a post that you think NEEDS to be on SHYB? Submit the link to us! You can either send us a fanmail with the link, or just use the submit page!
- We’ve got nearly 50,000 members here at SHYB, and it’s impossible for us mods to be able to go through every comment to every post. If you see someone making any negative comments on a post, or concern trolling, PLEASE inform us (you can submit the link to the post the offending comment/s are on) so we can take care of it! We all have to work together to keep SHYB as positive as possible!
- If you don’t already, feel free to follow us on Twitter and like our Facebook page! :D
I think that’s about it! Thanks for following, thanks for joining the revolution, and thanks for being you!
Love,
Call for submissions!
Hey everyone! Our queue is running really low right now, and I’d love to have some more stories to get us through the next few weeks! If you’ve been thinking about submitting, now would be a GREAT time! Don’t forget that if you want to make your post anonymous, we have no problem with that!
Other things I wanted to mention:
- We’ll be looking for a new mod or two soon in the near future, someone who’s got access to posts and info and connections to great blogs run by/for POC, trans*, disabled, and other groups that don’t get as much exposure as we’d like. So if you’ve got a few spare hours a week and don’t mind queueing submissions, answering questions, and finding body positive posts, especially body positive from the aforementioned groups, to put in our queue, start thinking about applying! I’m going to make up an application process and hope to have it up and running soon!
- Have you seen a post that you think NEEDS to be on SHYB? Submit the link to us! You can either send us a fanmail with the link, or just use the submit page!
- We’ve got nearly 50,000 members here at SHYB, and it’s impossible for us mods to be able to go through every comment to every post. If you see someone making any negative comments on a post, or concern trolling, PLEASE inform us (you can submit the link to the post the offending comment/s are on) so we can take care of it! We all have to work together to keep SHYB as positive as possible!
- If you don’t already, feel free to follow us on Twitter and like our Facebook page! :D
I think that’s about it! Thanks for following, thanks for joining the revolution, and thanks for being you!
Love,
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I wore this bikini to the lake today.
Majestic has been working and going to school full time so we don’t get as much QT as we used to and when we’re spread thin (ha), we regenerate in nature.
The thing is, Mercury’s in Retrograde, I’m shedding my uterine lining and my idea of “going into nature” doesn’t ever involve (or rather, I’d prefer if it didn’t) thin white insecure teenaged girls.
But today it did.
Normally, I’d do what I do best. Sitting in unflattering positions, eating passionately and aggressively and deflecting everyone’s poor self image are my strong suits.(right next to fucking, tying a pretty bow and swearing) I like to incite and I love to be seen in my fat bawdy. It reminds me I’m alive….surviving and thriving.
but like I said before, Mercury’s in Retrograde, I haven’t gotten intentional time with my Lover and I’m on my motherfucking period.
Today was not the goddamn day.
Watching a couple different flocks of thin teenage girls whisper to each other and then stare at two magical creatures such as myself and my beautiful wife with a look like they’d smelled a ripe fart filled me with a fiery rage.
Fat people can’t just fucking go to the lake and move their bodies in public without repercussions. The majority of thin people CAN.
Now, because this is not my first rodeo and I do not want anyone to get it twisted, I want everyone to read my words carefully and I really want thin folks to GET REAL with themselves right now.
I know the thin folks who read my blog make some serious attempts at becoming more body positive and I know you all try to think more critically about the ways in which you participate in a culture that is out to kill me. I know a lot of thin folks in my real life care about me, love me and even find my devilishly good looks to be quite captivating.
So when I talk about my feelings and real experiences, I do not want to hear about how you’re not the bad guy and how you don’t appreciate my anger. I don’t care
Today I took the countless stares, whispers and upset faces personally. Instead of challenging them, I started to shake with unadulterated rage and huffed off. I moved our blanket and snacks to a secluded inlet of the lake and sulked.When Majestic and I started to process my feelings, I told them the reason I feel unsafe around thin folks at the beach was about me 1. seeing their fucking faces when they look at me and 2. remembering what it was like to hate my body and the gross awful things I thought about people then. Worse, the things I was encouraged by my peers to say and think about people and the way we bonded over mean and hurtful feelings like it would keep us satisfied until we allowed ourselves a small portioned diet meal.
I told Majestic that thin people are thinking a few different things about my body and I don’t like any of them. Are they disgusted beyond belief? Are they sad for me and my pitiful fat existence? Are they just staring because my body has become so abject and such a spectacle that they’re just interested in knowing what it looks like that unclothed? Are they scared about what my body makes them think about their bodies?
Majestic said, “They’re uncomfortable. They want you to be invisible, but you refuse. It would be easier for them if you hid, but you won’t and that’s upsetting.”So maybe some of them are thinking about how ~*brave*~ I must be and that’s supposed to quell my upset over all the other thoughts they could be thinking.
As if them thinking its brave to have such a revolting body and still put on bathing suit and enjoy a swim just like them is a comforting thought.
But it is brave to know your body is scary and that people want to destroy it, but that it’s yours and you love it and you made the radical decision not to deny yourself a dip in a lake on a hot day or an ice cream cone or a lover who respects you.
Because I know it’s hard to be a teenage girl and if I thought they’d listen, I’d sit down with every last one of them and tell them I remember what it was like to be them and that I know what it’s like to carry that venom inside you.
Because as much as I want to tell the world how they hurt themselves by hating me, I really just want to fucking float around in the cool water like everyone else but you don’t want that for me
And tomorrow’s just another day for me to be fat in your face and if that’s hard for you, TOO FUCKING BAD
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