I wish every person felt as free as I feel.
The good news is every person can.
5 years ago, this blog saved my life. Now I’m returning the favor.
You are not pretty, ugly, fat, gorgeous, skinny, or curvy. You are so much more. You have a functioning body that is alive and a brain that is thinking. You have ideas, aspirations, opinions, compassion, and strength. You can love, hate, empathize, and feel. You can connect with others. You can learn and teach. If you can love others, you can learn to love yourself. And once you do that, you will be absolutely free. Because once you love yourself, no one can tear you down ever again.
But how? How do you love yourself? That’s a harder task. You’ll need to let go of your need to be accepted by others. You’ll need to let go of the media’s ideal of beauty, because no one can achieve that (nor should they strive to). You’ll need to let go of your need to be seen as perfect by the world. Just be like Elsa and let it go!
If you hide behind makeup like I used to, try wearing less and less each day until you feel comfortable going without it. Realize that no one around you cares what you look like, and even if they did, you don’t exist to impress them. Makeup should be used as an art, not as a shield.
If you obsess over your weight like I used to, realize that if you’re unhappy with yourself now, you won’t be happy when you’re 10 pounds lighter either. There will always be something about your body you can “fix.” Instead of changing everything about it, accept it as it is. Love it as it is. Then think about what will make you happy, and exercise or diet in a healthy way if that’s what you want for yourself.
If you think clothes and beauty products will make you happy, they won’t. Not on their own. They can enhance your life, but they won’t do shit if you don’t have a healthy mindset to begin with.
Don’t let anyone control you. Don’t let anyone tell you what is attractive and what is not. Only you can decide that for yourself.
If you want more help, then I want you to get it. I will never hesitate to answer any questions or talk with you about your self esteem, or body image, or anything in between and beyond. Just shoot me a message.
I’m proud of everyone on this site for taking the first steps towards freedom.
And remember: you aren’t beautiful. You are more.
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