(photo: Jeff Newton Photography; top and bottom: Torrid; shoes: DSW; lipstick: MAC Pink Nouveau; hair: Wella Reds)
NEWS FLASH… Women of every size can and should have fun getting dressed!!! For me this means mixing and matching colors that I normally wouldn’t think of pairing. This week I dare you to be bold, be wild, do the unexpected, and wear something that shows your inner sparkle!!!!
I advocate this knowing It takes courage to be full-figured, already highly visible. But big woman, I’m daring you to stand out and draw more attention to yourself!!! I know the attention we receive is often negative. Consider this, every time I walk out the door I risk extremely rude people shouting very disrespectful things at me, simply because the way I look. Being big and living in LA with your head held high is no easy feat. Creemelo.
Just the other night, I tried enjoying delicious tacos de pollo with friends outside a food truck near the Silverlake neighborhood, when both a bicyclist and a car full of people shouted very cruel things, obviously directed towards me. This is a common occurrence and a daily challenge to confront. How do I continue to love myself when each day it is evident that my body is unlovable to most folks?
I understand why large women choose to cover themselves, choose to be wallflowers blending in to the background, or living as shut ins. But I urge big women to come out of hiding. Enough is enough! Girl, we see your big body anyways, might as well flaunt it!!! Leave the baggy clothes behind you. Be brave and reclaim your body, mind, and spirit. Be bold knowing there is a possibility that cobardes may jeer and try to hurt you. Facing their prickly words while standing firme can set you free. Loving yourself, for yourself, on your own terms can be liberating.
Big woman, ultimately you get to chose how you respond when confronted with fat phobia. How you react under attack is what defines you.
I won’t be ashamed and feel sorry for myself. I will take control over how I represent myself. I choose to put on my pretty face, be wild, and stare those haters straight in the eyes showing them I can’t be broken and my light won’t be snuffed. I’m not going anywhere!
Have fun dressing!!!! Porque “la vida es un carnival” - Celia Cruz
- La Chica Mas Fina