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So i thought i would talk about age issues.
Why dont you act your age, how old are you, and Jay your 31 years old are comments i hear on a weekly basis. These comments usually come about because i have done or said something a 31 year old is not allowed to say. Apparently when you hit 30 years of age there is a way society expects you to act. And sadly i dont fall into that expectation. So what are these expectations? Well it tends to be your typical nuclear family, husband, wife, two kids, preferably one boy and one girl. You will also have a secure full time job and have a mortgage on your first house. Your wife looking after the kids and keeping the house tidy. This is the along the same lines as what the conservatives want you to be like (see marriage tax break). This ideals are very old fashioned ans havent really evolved even though society has evolved. So why dont i fit into the ideal? I’m 31 years old, im technically single according to the forms (i have a girlfriend), i have no kids, i work part time, full time University student and i live at home with my mum and step-dad. If you didnt know my age you would think im 19 years old.
Then we have the maturity level of what a 30 year old should be like. When i was 29 myself and four friends were having a pub lunch, my friend had a coffee with two small chocolate pieces to accompany it, he used the first one to stir his coffee, he then got the second one out and started to stir again, i used the opportunity to slap his hand which made him drop the chocolate piece into his coffee, we both found this hilarious, my other friend turned round, looked at me with that disapproving mother look and said “Jay your nearly 30”. The issue i had with this was my actions hadn’t upset anyone, it didnt cause an argument and it achieved a few chuckles, whats the harm in that? Ahhh because i was at the time nearly 30.We are told way to much about how we should act any age not just 30, when it comes down to it act how you want to act, and if it means you are not hurting anyone in the process then why should it matter if you are 30 acting 19? We are individuals do hat you want to do. I will continue to put dice in peoples tea, i will continue to hide one shoe, i will always swap peoples pictures over, because thats me, and thats why you love me.
Feel free to visit my tumblr page www.jayyylord.tumblr.com
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So i thought i would talk about age issues.

Why dont you act your age, how old are you, and Jay your 31 years old are comments i hear on a weekly basis. These comments usually come about because i have done or said something a 31 year old is not allowed to say. Apparently when you hit 30 years of age there is a way society expects you to act. And sadly i dont fall into that expectation. So what are these expectations? Well it tends to be your typical nuclear family, husband, wife, two kids, preferably one boy and one girl. You will also have a secure full time job and have a mortgage on your first house. Your wife looking after the kids and keeping the house tidy. This is the along the same lines as what the conservatives want you to be like (see marriage tax break). This ideals are very old fashioned ans havent really evolved even though society has evolved. So why dont i fit into the ideal? I’m 31 years old, im technically single according to the forms (i have a girlfriend), i have no kids, i work part time, full time University student and i live at home with my mum and step-dad. If you didnt know my age you would think im 19 years old.

Then we have the maturity level of what a 30 year old should be like. When i was 29 myself and four friends were having a pub lunch, my friend had a coffee with two small chocolate pieces to accompany it, he used the first one to stir his coffee, he then got the second one out and started to stir again, i used the opportunity to slap his hand which made him drop the chocolate piece into his coffee, we both found this hilarious, my other friend turned round, looked at me with that disapproving mother look and said “Jay your nearly 30”. The issue i had with this was my actions hadn’t upset anyone, it didnt cause an argument and it achieved a few chuckles, whats the harm in that? Ahhh because i was at the time nearly 30.We are told way to much about how we should act any age not just 30, when it comes down to it act how you want to act, and if it means you are not hurting anyone in the process then why should it matter if you are 30 acting 19? We are individuals do hat you want to do. I will continue to put dice in peoples tea, i will continue to hide one shoe, i will always swap peoples pictures over, because thats me, and thats why you love me.

Feel free to visit my tumblr page www.jayyylord.tumblr.com

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TW: Sexual Abuse/Rape
Hi everyone.  My name is Scott, and I was sexually abused as a child. I have spent the past 7 years struggling with depression, guilt, low self-esteem, and intimacy issues.  Most people, including friends and family, have always been quick to stereotype me as a happy go-lucky “jock”.  This could not be any further from the truth.  For years, I have lied to everyone (including myself) by masking my pain and insecurities.    
Over the past year or so, I have taken a big step forward in the healing process.  Counseling sessions and discussing the abuse with others has really helped me A LOT.  It still is a day-to-day challenge, but I am in such a much better place now.  I have really begun embracing the self-love/body positive philosophies, and have acquired a much more positive self-image. It has been a long time since I have felt this good about myself.
The people and stories on this site are so inspirational.  I wanted to take a moment to share my story.  Please continue to love yourself. 
Feel free to message me at my tumblr below
http://evenflow1996.tumblr.com/
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TW: Sexual Abuse/Rape

Hi everyone.  My name is Scott, and I was sexually abused as a child. I have spent the past 7 years struggling with depression, guilt, low self-esteem, and intimacy issues.  Most people, including friends and family, have always been quick to stereotype me as a happy go-lucky “jock”.  This could not be any further from the truth.  For years, I have lied to everyone (including myself) by masking my pain and insecurities.    

Over the past year or so, I have taken a big step forward in the healing process.  Counseling sessions and discussing the abuse with others has really helped me A LOT.  It still is a day-to-day challenge, but I am in such a much better place now.  I have really begun embracing the self-love/body positive philosophies, and have acquired a much more positive self-image. It has been a long time since I have felt this good about myself.

The people and stories on this site are so inspirational.  I wanted to take a moment to share my story.  Please continue to love yourself. 

Feel free to message me at my tumblr below

http://evenflow1996.tumblr.com/

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trigger warning: weight-loss, surgery, eating disorder, depression, bipolar disorder
To be completely honest, I’ve never been good at posting trigger warnings. There are a lot of things that trigger, and I never know if I cover all the bases. I hope those suffice. Anyhow,
I’ve been overweight my whole life. I’ve always been down on myself, to the point where my battles with depression and bipolar disorder were exponentially worsened.
Last summer, I had an extreme bout of bulimia; binge eating a purging everything. A lot of this was also due to my Lap-Band* being far too tight. I dropped close to sixty pounds in a little less than four months. As much as I was digging the results, I just wasn’t healthy. I had the Band adjusted, and gained back a lot of the weight. So it goes.
Yet, for years I’ve always had insecurities with my double chin. Playing guitar in a band means a lot of pictures of me looking down at my guitar or feet a la “shoegaze” which in turn means seeing my double chin. But you know what? As much as it makes me feel uncomfortable, I think I do a good job at just owning it and making it work.
And with my body and weight? I’m slowly and surely on the right path to making it all work. :)
*Back in 2008, I had Lap-Band surgery for weight loss. If any of you reading this are interested in having the operation, or just have questions regarding it, please feel free to shoot me some asks on my page. I’ll be more than glad to answer any questions you may have!
shiftingmyclarity.tumblr.comthesecondside.bandcamp.com
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trigger warning: weight-loss, surgery, eating disorder, depression, bipolar disorder

To be completely honest, I’ve never been good at posting trigger warnings. There are a lot of things that trigger, and I never know if I cover all the bases. I hope those suffice. Anyhow,

I’ve been overweight my whole life. I’ve always been down on myself, to the point where my battles with depression and bipolar disorder were exponentially worsened.

Last summer, I had an extreme bout of bulimia; binge eating a purging everything. A lot of this was also due to my Lap-Band* being far too tight. I dropped close to sixty pounds in a little less than four months. As much as I was digging the results, I just wasn’t healthy. I had the Band adjusted, and gained back a lot of the weight. So it goes.

Yet, for years I’ve always had insecurities with my double chin. Playing guitar in a band means a lot of pictures of me looking down at my guitar or feet a la “shoegaze” which in turn means seeing my double chin. But you know what? As much as it makes me feel uncomfortable, I think I do a good job at just owning it and making it work.

And with my body and weight? I’m slowly and surely on the right path to making it all work. :)

*Back in 2008, I had Lap-Band surgery for weight loss. If any of you reading this are interested in having the operation, or just have questions regarding it, please feel free to shoot me some asks on my page. I’ll be more than glad to answer any questions you may have!

shiftingmyclarity.tumblr.com
thesecondside.bandcamp.com

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atchka:

suthrnblakbear:

Texas Rangers player Prince Fielder from ESPN’s upcoming 2014 Body Issue. Daaaaaamn!

Big men represent!

tw: emotional abuse, bullying, depression
So… this is me. For years, ever since I was little, I was bullied about my weight, and generally felt insecure about it all my life. Not only was it other kids, but extended family would make comments whenever I saw them too. I always felt like I had too big of a gut… that would never go away. I was incredibly insecure about it. Also… my chest has always looked like I have breasts, and being a guy, that’s something I’ve always been iffy about as well (and, yeah, I’ve been bullied about that too).
Over the years I learned to sort of accept they were there, but I never really enjoyed it. I refused to take my shirt off in public. I refused to let anyone see me without clothing. I found myself wishing daily that I could get rid of my stomach and chest, but nothing I ever tried worked. They were just kind of there. Over the past few years however, I’ve had a specific friend who has been trying to convince me otherwise, that they’re part of me and that they’re beautiful. It’s not until recently that I’ve actually started listening to her, and that in of itself took years to happen. I’ve also been cutting out all toxic people in my life, and getting rid of all the negativity involved therein - which has done wonders for my mental health and well-being (which was never very healthy either).
I’m finally starting to love the way I look as opposed to just accepting it. It is part of me, and it is beautiful. And my being able to say that… is evidence of just how far I’ve come mentally and emotionally. My self-esteem is completely opposite of what it used to be. I can say I’m sexy and attractive now, and actually believe it.
Everyone is beautiful in their own ways, every single person alive. Don’t let anyone tell you or make you think otherwise. It’s taken years for me to feel this way about myself, but I know you can do the same. I believe in all of you. 
http://blue-strife.tumblr.com/
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tw: emotional abuse, bullying, depression

So… this is me. For years, ever since I was little, I was bullied about my weight, and generally felt insecure about it all my life. Not only was it other kids, but extended family would make comments whenever I saw them too. I always felt like I had too big of a gut… that would never go away. I was incredibly insecure about it. Also… my chest has always looked like I have breasts, and being a guy, that’s something I’ve always been iffy about as well (and, yeah, I’ve been bullied about that too).

Over the years I learned to sort of accept they were there, but I never really enjoyed it. I refused to take my shirt off in public. I refused to let anyone see me without clothing. I found myself wishing daily that I could get rid of my stomach and chest, but nothing I ever tried worked. They were just kind of there. Over the past few years however, I’ve had a specific friend who has been trying to convince me otherwise, that they’re part of me and that they’re beautiful. It’s not until recently that I’ve actually started listening to her, and that in of itself took years to happen. I’ve also been cutting out all toxic people in my life, and getting rid of all the negativity involved therein - which has done wonders for my mental health and well-being (which was never very healthy either).

I’m finally starting to love the way I look as opposed to just accepting it. It is part of me, and it is beautiful. And my being able to say that… is evidence of just how far I’ve come mentally and emotionally. My self-esteem is completely opposite of what it used to be. I can say I’m sexy and attractive now, and actually believe it.

Everyone is beautiful in their own ways, every single person alive. Don’t let anyone tell you or make you think otherwise. It’s taken years for me to feel this way about myself, but I know you can do the same. I believe in all of you.

http://blue-strife.tumblr.com/

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to be happy in your own skin is such a joy, to find someone else who makes you feel even better than you did before, and loves you completely, is such a blessing..
BE BRAVE! JOIN THE BODY PEACE REVOLUTION!

to be happy in your own skin is such a joy, to find someone else who makes you feel even better than you did before, and loves you completely, is such a blessing..

BE BRAVE! JOIN THE BODY PEACE REVOLUTION!

I have never really hated my body, but i was always concerned with what i was eating and the effect it had on my health and mood. So i started a slimming world diet, i have been on the diet for 25 weeks, and i have lost 19lbs in total. Not only have i lost the weight but im feeling much much better about myself, i am the most confident i have been in a long long time. Best thing about the diet is that it doesn’t feel like a diet, im eating healthier food and its great. Now im off to make myself a lovely fruit salad. Be good to each other and feel free to check out my blog and message me.
www.jayyylord.tumblr.com 

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I have never really hated my body, but i was always concerned with what i was eating and the effect it had on my health and mood. So i started a slimming world diet, i have been on the diet for 25 weeks, and i have lost 19lbs in total. Not only have i lost the weight but im feeling much much better about myself, i am the most confident i have been in a long long time. Best thing about the diet is that it doesn’t feel like a diet, im eating healthier food and its great. Now im off to make myself a lovely fruit salad. Be good to each other and feel free to check out my blog and message me.

www.jayyylord.tumblr.com 

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