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(Let’s face it, I rant, so probably more than a moment)
My first problem; cross dressing is not androgyny, and women wearing ‘feminized’ male fashion like button ups and suspenders in ‘feminine’ colors is not androgyny. Androgyny is the sense you give off. It is the feeling you give, not merely what you wear. Being so, I’m kind of tired of stalking the androgyny tag and having this be all I see. Fucking with gender norms does not make you androgynous.
My second problem; that advertising uses androgyny to be purposely controversial. Take the new Toyota commercial everyone is buzzing about. It sets up activists/’totally forward thinking’ people to say it’s okay for us to be attracted to people we can perceive as one gender (even if it’s not their gender), but then the ‘big reveal’ comes to show us they’re actually the opposite and society gets to take the attraction back under a mask of disgust. Spark controversy. Get your product out there. Support misogyny and gender discrimination in the process.
Last problem; there are only two acceptable faces of androgyny. The first being the feminist lesbian who ‘obviously’ has penis envy and wants male equivalency. The second being the male model who makes a living off of it because it’s ‘obviously’ not okay for a ‘real’ man to ever want to look feminine and is also either gay or really a trans woman. But you know, even people who are so ‘supportive’ of ‘alternative lifestyles’, like androgyny, are supremely hypocritical. They make bigoted mistakes themselves when they shuck the two-faces system only to retain the third underlying factor that the system also has: if you’re going to be androgynous and look good, you have to be white or overexpose your photos if you aren’t. (yeah yeah I’m white and I have privilege so I shouldn’t be saying anything. Whatever. I’m allowed to wish there were more prominent androgynous role models who are POC without society telling them they don’t have ‘the look’.)
Okay, I’m done. Feel free to flame away.