This is a place of encouragement, a place to discuss body image, insecurities, self-esteem, and everything under the umbrella of fighting self-hate and finding self-love.

No matter what you look like, what color, what gender, sexual orientation, what size or however many "flaws", healthy, not healthy, working on it, abled, disabled, we are all human, we all deserve to be happy, we all deserve to love ourselves. With this blog you will see all kinds of REAL bodies, REAL people, REAL stories.

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darklovelyandsouthasian:

Heya! I’m Tiara, Bangladeshi parentage and Malaysian origin, currently based in SF Bay Area in the US. I grew up in a climate of intense racism against Bangladeshis in Malaysia and people would find every excuse to find fault with Bangladeshis. Skin colour was a common thing: I was dark, therefore I was ugly, therefore I could not be trusted. Sometimes I’d be called “hitam manis” (sweet black), but it took on a vibe closer to a slur, and usually people just skipped straight to the more potent slurs - “Bangla” or “keling” (a slur directed towards dark-skinned South Asians, about as bad as n*****).
Shadeism is rife in Malaysia, and overtly so. Every beauty product has skin lightening properties (I don’t know if any of them worked). Dark meant evil, dirty, uncouth, untrustworthy, low class, disgusting. I worked in the media for a while but could never get an onscreen role because again, too dark.
I moved to Australia in 2006 and it was interesting to note that in some ways the skin colour pressure is less overt. If anything my skin colour gets exotified - “oh I wish I could tan like you!” or comparison to various sweets. But it’s still hard to get taken seriously while brown - people ask me constantly “where are you from?” as if I am some space alien and then they dispute my answer! They are surprised I speak English! (I did get an onscreen TV role surprisingly, yay Australia Network). I’ve been doing burlesque for a while and I do get quite a few people sayjng I’m too brown hairy fat ugly to bare myself. Screw them.
The picture is in response to a Brisbane based lingerie company that hosted a photo competition & model search. Amongst their criteria was that the model should be a “classic beauty” and specifically mentioned pale white skin. It took them a while to realize how racist their criteria was, but even now there are no brown models.
Submitted by Creatrix Tiara

darklovelyandsouthasian:

Heya! I’m Tiara, Bangladeshi parentage and Malaysian origin, currently based in SF Bay Area in the US. I grew up in a climate of intense racism against Bangladeshis in Malaysia and people would find every excuse to find fault with Bangladeshis. Skin colour was a common thing: I was dark, therefore I was ugly, therefore I could not be trusted. Sometimes I’d be called “hitam manis” (sweet black), but it took on a vibe closer to a slur, and usually people just skipped straight to the more potent slurs - “Bangla” or “keling” (a slur directed towards dark-skinned South Asians, about as bad as n*****).

Shadeism is rife in Malaysia, and overtly so. Every beauty product has skin lightening properties (I don’t know if any of them worked). Dark meant evil, dirty, uncouth, untrustworthy, low class, disgusting. I worked in the media for a while but could never get an onscreen role because again, too dark.

I moved to Australia in 2006 and it was interesting to note that in some ways the skin colour pressure is less overt. If anything my skin colour gets exotified - “oh I wish I could tan like you!” or comparison to various sweets. But it’s still hard to get taken seriously while brown - people ask me constantly “where are you from?” as if I am some space alien and then they dispute my answer! They are surprised I speak English! (I did get an onscreen TV role surprisingly, yay Australia Network). I’ve been doing burlesque for a while and I do get quite a few people sayjng I’m too brown hairy fat ugly to bare myself. Screw them.

The picture is in response to a Brisbane based lingerie company that hosted a photo competition & model search. Amongst their criteria was that the model should be a “classic beauty” and specifically mentioned pale white skin. It took them a while to realize how racist their criteria was, but even now there are no brown models.

Submitted by Creatrix Tiara

Christmas Is A Difficult Time For Everyone:

And though it is supposed to be a time of family, love and happiness… It often gets tainted by the losses we suffer as we get older…

I believe this is why many of us tend to lose the spirit as we age, because we lose sight of the goodness at this time, and let the sadness and darkness plague our minds and taint our thoughts and make excuses for our Bah Humbug attitudes.

We lose loved ones, we lose hope, we lose courage, we lose strength, we lose ourselves in the constant battle with out individuality and constantly find ourselves wandering this path run by power hungry people who control the media, and our thoughts and our pain.

We are constantly told we’re not good enough, year after year, time after time… It is the reason so many of us wish for makeup for christmas, a razor, shampoo, sweet smelling soaps…etc

This year I wish that every single one of us, can not only be thankful for the love of our families, and the wonderful gifts that we’ve received…

But also for the skin that we’re so lovingly wrapped in, the skin that takes us on our way through life, fighting every battle, walking through every storm.

Thank your body today, and love it. Because it sure as hell has loved you.

Happy Holiday’s Everyone, Love Always; Katie

Acceptance Is Key

While visiting a cottage with friends I was astounded by how beautiful these girls are, I mean really. Every single one has drastically different features, we’re all terribly different, but not a single one isn’t gorgeous! Inspired by Glee’s born this way message as well as America’s Next Top Model’s photoshoot (can’t remember which) in which they uncover their vulnerability in search for self acceptance.

I hope you all enjoy this expression of self love from all of us!

Ashley (Emo/Passionate)

Sara(Loud/Driven)

Kira (Weird/Creative)

Katie (FAT/Brave)

Rebecca (Quiet/Crazy)

I hope some of you get something from this :) 

Love you all!

-Katie