This is a place of encouragement, a place to discuss body image, insecurities, self-esteem, and everything under the umbrella of fighting self-hate and finding self-love.

No matter what you look like, what color, what gender, sexual orientation, what size or however many "flaws", healthy, not healthy, working on it, abled, disabled, we are all human, we all deserve to be happy, we all deserve to love ourselves. With this blog you will see all kinds of REAL bodies, REAL people, REAL stories.

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thetigerbeat:

British woman Harnaam Kaur started growing facial hair at 16 as a side effect of polycystic ovary syndrome. She tried waxing, shaving and bleaching before being baptised a Sikh, which forbids the cutting of body hair. Photograph: Brock Elbank/Barcroft Media

thetigerbeat:

British woman Harnaam Kaur started growing facial hair at 16 as a side effect of polycystic ovary syndrome. She tried waxing, shaving and bleaching before being baptised a Sikh, which forbids the cutting of body hair. Photograph: Brock Elbank/Barcroft Media

big-gal-yoga:

Some more partner yoga with @justsmileandnod from IG! Wish I could gotten a bit more squared, but this was kind of difficult to get into. Didn’t want to kick her in the face :p! Fun and giggly times!

big-gal-yoga:

Some more partner yoga with @justsmileandnod from IG! Wish I could gotten a bit more squared, but this was kind of difficult to get into. Didn’t want to kick her in the face :p! Fun and giggly times!

kosmic-kid asked
Hi! I totally support the movement to love and embrace every body type! My problem is that when I try to share that belief with people I'm always faced with someone that says that teaching heavy people to love their bodies "encourages an unhealthy lifestyle" wondering if I can get some advice on how to rebuttal that argument

There’s a lot of stuff on the FAQ actually if you check it out on the homepage or just click here http://stophatingyourbody.tumblr.com/FAQ

The rebuttal to that is pretty basic: People come in different shapes and sizes, health looks different on every body. Some people are healthier at heavier weights, others being slimmer, often times, our weight is not at all correlated to our health. However, if someone is living unhealthy lifestyles (no matter their size) or has some type of health problem, that is their business alone. Not your body, not your business. Do you really think it would be beneficial for one with a health problem to have low self-esteem as well? No way. Everyone has a right to live without prejudice being thrust upon them, everyone has a right to a happy and body positive life, no matter where they are on their journey. 

-Annie

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prettysickart:

PrettySickArt #118: EmilyName: EmilyAge: 24Location: Cincinnati, OHSite: TumblrHas: Spina Bifida, HydrocephalusAids: Wheelchair

prettysickart:

PrettySickArt #118: Emily
Name: Emily
Age: 24
Location: Cincinnati, OH
Site: Tumblr
Has: Spina Bifida, Hydrocephalus
Aids: Wheelchair

size10plz:

What are thigh gaps and why you probably aren’t going to get one from weight loss
If you have been apart of tumblr for long enough or have wanted to lose weight at some point while on tumblr you’d notice a lot of blogs in the “thinspiration” community have a desire for thigh gaps. 
What is a thigh gap you may ask? Essentially it’s a gap between a persons thighs, preferably desired by women.
Why do people want one?
No idea

Chances are if you are trying to get one by losing weight for whatever reason then you may not be able to get it.
“BUT WHY?!” you may cry. Very simple, my dear person. It’s all about your skeleton.

You cannot change the structure of your skeleton very easily (and it would be painful if you could. For example: child birth)
Some people are naturally able to have a thigh gap at a certain size, but that doesn’t automatically mean that you have to very thin. People who are at different sizes can have them but can every fit/thin person have one? No
Fact of the matter is that you probably won’t get one and it’s not a big deal. You don’t die if you don’t have one, and no one really cares about them as much as you do persons-who-want-a-thigh-gap-who-is-reading-this. Well, unless you’re this guy

There are two main reasons for why you probably won’t get one even if you lose weight.
One reason why you won’t get one is because of your hips. If you have narrow hips it’ll be a bit harder to obtain. Here are some examples


You can’t really change your genetics or bone structure…so…
Although, some of you might be thinking “fuck yeah! I have wide hips I’m going to get a thigh gap!!”

Sorry but that also might not be the case. The second reason for why you probably won’t get one is because of your legs. Let me explain a bit.
This is what the leg bones look like when you’re standing

So because your femurs are going in-ward like the image above it would be difficult to obtain a thigh gap even if you have wide hips. Also considering that you also have muscle, skin, fat, veins, around your bones to make, well, legs. It would be hard to achieve it. You need these things to you know, move. 
Also remember that people on tumblr stick out their butts, straighten their legs, bending forward with their heels apart, or stand with their feet wider apart for the illusion for a thigh gap in these photos. So really, if they can’t have one naturally what’s the chances of you having one? Here is a great example 

If you’re worried about chafing then a quick google search will show you that there are ways to remedy one without achieving a thigh gap. Remember that sometimes every-ones skin is different as well. Some are more or less sensitive than others. So having a thigh gap isn’t an automatic answer to not have any chafing. Many people in my life don’t have thigh gaps and they have no issues with rashes or chafing. 
If you’re still wanting a thigh gap despite of what I said you can get one easily by standing like peter pan and walk like that for the rest of your life.

Which goes to show that a thigh gap can be very relative of how you stand.
If you’re still wanting a thigh gap because you see models and other girls in the media having one just remember that the super thin body type portrayed by women in the media only effects 5% of the population. The standards are only getting tighter since 20 years ago models weighed 8% less than a healthy weight and now it’s 23% less than a healthy weight.
Why throw away your health to try and obtain something that most people don’t naturally have? You’re in trouble if you’re going to forgo your health for the sake of something that isn’t obtainable by most human standards.

I feel the need to add that having a thigh gap is perfectly fine, there’s nothing wrong with it—it’s just something most people don’t have. Just like there’s nothing wrong with being a size 0, it’s just not something that’s realistic for most people.
Very informative post, though :)

size10plz:

What are thigh gaps and why you probably aren’t going to get one from weight loss

If you have been apart of tumblr for long enough or have wanted to lose weight at some point while on tumblr you’d notice a lot of blogs in the “thinspiration” community have a desire for thigh gaps. 

What is a thigh gap you may ask? Essentially it’s a gap between a persons thighs, preferably desired by women.

Why do people want one?

No idea

image

Chances are if you are trying to get one by losing weight for whatever reason then you may not be able to get it.

“BUT WHY?!” you may cry. Very simple, my dear person. It’s all about your skeleton.

image

You cannot change the structure of your skeleton very easily (and it would be painful if you could. For example: child birth)

Some people are naturally able to have a thigh gap at a certain size, but that doesn’t automatically mean that you have to very thin. People who are at different sizes can have them but can every fit/thin person have one? No

Fact of the matter is that you probably won’t get one and it’s not a big deal. You don’t die if you don’t have one, and no one really cares about them as much as you do persons-who-want-a-thigh-gap-who-is-reading-this. Well, unless you’re this guy

image

There are two main reasons for why you probably won’t get one even if you lose weight.

One reason why you won’t get one is because of your hips. If you have narrow hips it’ll be a bit harder to obtain. Here are some examples

image

image

You can’t really change your genetics or bone structure…so…

Although, some of you might be thinking “fuck yeah! I have wide hips I’m going to get a thigh gap!!”

image

Sorry but that also might not be the case. The second reason for why you probably won’t get one is because of your legs. Let me explain a bit.

This is what the leg bones look like when you’re standing

image

So because your femurs are going in-ward like the image above it would be difficult to obtain a thigh gap even if you have wide hips. Also considering that you also have muscle, skin, fat, veins, around your bones to make, well, legs. It would be hard to achieve it. You need these things to you know, move. 

Also remember that people on tumblr stick out their butts, straighten their legs, bending forward with their heels apart, or stand with their feet wider apart for the illusion for a thigh gap in these photos. So really, if they can’t have one naturally what’s the chances of you having one? Here is a great example 

image

If you’re worried about chafing then a quick google search will show you that there are ways to remedy one without achieving a thigh gap. Remember that sometimes every-ones skin is different as well. Some are more or less sensitive than others. So having a thigh gap isn’t an automatic answer to not have any chafing. Many people in my life don’t have thigh gaps and they have no issues with rashes or chafing. 

If you’re still wanting a thigh gap despite of what I said you can get one easily by standing like peter pan and walk like that for the rest of your life.

image

Which goes to show that a thigh gap can be very relative of how you stand.

If you’re still wanting a thigh gap because you see models and other girls in the media having one just remember that the super thin body type portrayed by women in the media only effects 5% of the population. The standards are only getting tighter since 20 years ago models weighed 8% less than a healthy weight and now it’s 23% less than a healthy weight.

Why throw away your health to try and obtain something that most people don’t naturally have? You’re in trouble if you’re going to forgo your health for the sake of something that isn’t obtainable by most human standards.

I feel the need to add that having a thigh gap is perfectly fine, there’s nothing wrong with it—it’s just something most people don’t have. Just like there’s nothing wrong with being a size 0, it’s just not something that’s realistic for most people.

Very informative post, though :)

wheeliewifee:

My 2013 New Year’s Resolution Revolution! 
More: water, fruits & vegs, art, SEX, writing & reading, self-care, dates w/hubby, LIPSTICK, and movement (walking, wheeling, weights, stretching)
Less (or fewer): foods that make me sick, pills (more natural treatments), sleeping in & late nights, spending $$, sugar, TV, computer, iPod
I will wear what is comfortable and makes me happy— not only what is flattering. 
I will stand up for myself to doctor’s and ask for the accommodations I need!
I will remember that I am NOT a burden. 
I will continue to train Cash Puppy as a service dog. 
I will improve my time management skills. 
Most of all, I will be EASIER on myself, and continue the progress I have made in accepting my body and loving my life. 
Happy 2013, Lovelies! 

wheeliewifee:

My 2013 New Year’s Resolution Revolution! 

More: water, fruits & vegs, art, SEX, writing & reading, self-care, dates w/hubby, LIPSTICK, and movement (walking, wheeling, weights, stretching)

Less (or fewer): foods that make me sick, pills (more natural treatments), sleeping in & late nights, spending $$, sugar, TV, computer, iPod

I will wear what is comfortable and makes me happy— not only what is flattering. 

I will stand up for myself to doctor’s and ask for the accommodations I need!

I will remember that I am NOT a burden. 

I will continue to train Cash Puppy as a service dog. 

I will improve my time management skills. 

Most of all, I will be EASIER on myself, and continue the progress I have made in accepting my body and loving my life. 


Happy 2013, Lovelies! 

Why I Will Never Advocate Weight Loss Surgery.

Five years later I am still unable to eat bread. I cannot eat red meat unless it comes out of a slow cooker and even then, I have to be careful. Pasta is touch and go and I throw up regularly because my body has learned to fear certain textures of food, they get “stuck” and it is completely involuntary when I bring them back up. Whenever I go out to eat, I make sure I know where the bathroom is first in case I have to run. I have to take multivitamins because I do not get enough from the food I am able to digest. I was losing my hair at one point from malnutrition, thankfully it’s growing back now.

shakethecobwebs:


rebloggable by request

You sort of answered the question yourself, and I’ll explain why. 
My definition of dieting is the act of willfully restricting yourself with the sole intention of weight loss. It’s usually put under some guise of “but I need to be HEALTHIER!” But what people usually mean by that is “my body will be smaller, so I will feel better about myself.”
This is problematic because we live in a culture that thinks losing weight automatically makes you healthier, which isn’t the case. 
Diet-talk can be incredibly triggering for people (like me!) who have been told all their lives (by parents, even!) that if I went on a diet, changed what I ate, “got healthier,” etc. that someone would be able to finally love me. Which, again, reinforces the idea that fat people are inherently unlovable. 
Diet-talk also reinforces ideas about “good” foods and “bad” foods which is terrible! It’s not to say that all foods are created equal, but it implies that some foods are universally healthy - and that is not the case. 
Ultimately, diet-talk assumes that all bodies are created equally. That if everyone did _______ they would all end up being thin and healthy and self-fulfilling. But everyone can’t be thin. And everyone can’t be healthy. And diets aren’t a proper measure of worth. 
And all of that is different than making different food choices in order to feel stronger, to feel that you have more endurance, to feel more flexible, etc. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel as though you’re nourishing your body. (Because bodies are awesome and self-care can definitely happen through food and exercise!)
When people hear “I don’t support diets” they think I’m saying “eat cheeseburgers and sit on the couch all day long.” Which isn’t what I’m saying. (But if you wanna do that, go ahead. Your body. Your choice.) What I amsaying is that there is no such thing as universally healthy. What I am saying is that it’s impossible for every person to be healthy all of the time. What I amsaying is that we live in a culture where dieting is fucking everywhere, and it hurts people like me who have been told that their abusers would stop hurting them if only they would go on a diet. 
At the end of the day, as long as people aren’t hurting anyone, they should do whatever they want with their bodies. Losing weight is not counter-productive to fat politics. But intentionally losing weight solely because you’ve bought into the idea that smaller bodies are better bodies and going around telling everyone how great your diet is and how they can be just like you!!!111 is most definitely counter-productive to fat politics. 
I hope that helps. :)

shakethecobwebs:

rebloggable by request

You sort of answered the question yourself, and I’ll explain why. 

My definition of dieting is the act of willfully restricting yourself with the sole intention of weight loss. It’s usually put under some guise of “but I need to be HEALTHIER!” But what people usually mean by that is “my body will be smaller, so I will feel better about myself.”

This is problematic because we live in a culture that thinks losing weight automatically makes you healthier, which isn’t the case. 

Diet-talk can be incredibly triggering for people (like me!) who have been told all their lives (by parents, even!) that if I went on a diet, changed what I ate, “got healthier,” etc. that someone would be able to finally love me. Which, again, reinforces the idea that fat people are inherently unlovable. 

Diet-talk also reinforces ideas about “good” foods and “bad” foods which is terrible! It’s not to say that all foods are created equal, but it implies that some foods are universally healthy - and that is not the case. 

Ultimately, diet-talk assumes that all bodies are created equally. That if everyone did _______ they would all end up being thin and healthy and self-fulfilling. But everyone can’t be thin. And everyone can’t be healthy. And diets aren’t a proper measure of worth. 

And all of that is different than making different food choices in order to feel stronger, to feel that you have more endurance, to feel more flexible, etc. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel as though you’re nourishing your body. (Because bodies are awesome and self-care can definitely happen through food and exercise!)

When people hear “I don’t support diets” they think I’m saying “eat cheeseburgers and sit on the couch all day long.” Which isn’t what I’m saying. (But if you wanna do that, go ahead. Your body. Your choice.) What I amsaying is that there is no such thing as universally healthy. What I am saying is that it’s impossible for every person to be healthy all of the time. What I amsaying is that we live in a culture where dieting is fucking everywhere, and it hurts people like me who have been told that their abusers would stop hurting them if only they would go on a diet. 

At the end of the day, as long as people aren’t hurting anyone, they should do whatever they want with their bodies. Losing weight is not counter-productive to fat politics. But intentionally losing weight solely because you’ve bought into the idea that smaller bodies are better bodies and going around telling everyone how great your diet is and how they can be just like you!!!111 is most definitely counter-productive to fat politics. 

I hope that helps. :)