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Anti-fitness

sir-whirl:

goddamnitriot:

the-exercist:

thisisthinprivilege:

I don’t agree with anyone saying that thin =/= fit. There is a very good reason there are no fat athletes. I guarantee no Olympian participating in an athletic sport of any kind cares more about winning than personal image. So they do what’s best to be the best. Which leads to them being more fit and therefore not fat. Being able to do what the average human can do is not “fit”.

(mod note: OOPS EXCEPT FOR FAT OLYMPIANS.

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Holley Mangold

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Sarah Robles)

Oscar Brayson and Ricardo Blas Jr!

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Leisel Jones!

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God on Earth, Reese Hoffa!

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Chiara Rosa!

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Jillian Camera-Williams!

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Vanessa Zamboti!

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And there are so many more. Olympians, every last one of them, and in better shape than I am. 

#sports#olympics#thanks#thANK U#i’ve been trying to find fat athletes but it’s really hard to stomach what people say about them#like i would find these lists#aND EACH ONE WAS TALKED TO AS IF THEY WERE LESS OF A PERSON#and some kind of joke#’hahah there are fat people who are fitter than you#as if it’s such a strong thing#and they just talk down to fat athletes in ways that they would never otherwise#it annoys me sooo much!#sO THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS POST

Speaking as a qualified PT, on the first day of college we were taught that someone’s weight has no relevance whatsoever to their fitness level.

People need to stop being so damn ignorant.

brooklynboobala:

jeanneclawedvanglam:

anacane:

anactingangel:

Makin’ some art :)

Yes, I believe this piece is called ‘Heart Disease.’ 
I think the next one is supposed to be called ‘Diabetes.’
Very artistic. Some might say ‘killer’. 

LOL how very creative you are! So original! Generalizing judgements about people you don’t know makes you look so smaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaart! 

The human body is art, no matter what form and no matter if you think it’s pretty or not, healthy or not, worthy or not. The body is amazing, and the diversity in bodies is profound and important for everyone to see. Normalizing diversity is imperative. Still, some people need to be reminded that their opinion on someone’s body is actually not needed. This person’s desire to pull someone down who is actively happy and proud of their body simply highlights the mindset of an asshole. I think we put way too much emphasis on having opinions about other people’s bodies when we should just be concerned with what’s happening in our own bag of flesh. Asshole comments that are initially thought to be clever are quite simply the mindless drivel of a person with no ability to see humanity as a whole. There is no default. Every body is a good body.

brooklynboobala:

jeanneclawedvanglam:

anacane:

anactingangel:

Makin’ some art :)

Yes, I believe this piece is called ‘Heart Disease.’ 

I think the next one is supposed to be called ‘Diabetes.’

Very artistic. Some might say ‘killer’. 

LOL how very creative you are! So original! Generalizing judgements about people you don’t know makes you look so smaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaart! 

The human body is art, no matter what form and no matter if you think it’s pretty or not, healthy or not, worthy or not. The body is amazing, and the diversity in bodies is profound and important for everyone to see. Normalizing diversity is imperative.

Still, some people need to be reminded that their opinion on someone’s body is actually not needed. This person’s desire to pull someone down who is actively happy and proud of their body simply highlights the mindset of an asshole.

I think we put way too much emphasis on having opinions about other people’s bodies when we should just be concerned with what’s happening in our own bag of flesh. Asshole comments that are initially thought to be clever are quite simply the mindless drivel of a person with no ability to see humanity as a
whole.

There is no default. Every body is a good body.

(Source: benegesseritangel)

devourmyirisheart:

dumpyspaceprincess:

I can think of at least…5 things my body is more useful for than someone else’s “motivation” to diet.
A wee companion piece for this x

HEY EVERYONE SHOULD REBLOG THE SHIT OUT OF THIS BECAUSE THINSPO BLOGS HAVE GOTTEN AHOLD OF THIS IMAGE AND ITS REALLY UPSETTING THE ARTIST THAT HER WORK MEANT TO INSPIRE BODY ACCEPTANCE IS BEING USED AS THINSPIRATION WHICH IS REALLY GROSS AND STUPID SINCE IT LITERALLY SAYS, “NOT YOUR FUCKING THINSPO” SO PLEASE HELP AND RECLAIM THIS IMAGE BY REBLOGING

devourmyirisheart:

dumpyspaceprincess:

I can think of at least…5 things my body is more useful for than someone else’s “motivation” to diet.

A wee companion piece for this x

HEY EVERYONE SHOULD REBLOG THE SHIT OUT OF THIS BECAUSE THINSPO BLOGS HAVE GOTTEN AHOLD OF THIS IMAGE AND ITS REALLY UPSETTING THE ARTIST THAT HER WORK MEANT TO INSPIRE BODY ACCEPTANCE IS BEING USED AS THINSPIRATION WHICH IS REALLY GROSS AND STUPID SINCE IT LITERALLY SAYS, “NOT YOUR FUCKING THINSPO” SO PLEASE HELP AND RECLAIM THIS IMAGE BY REBLOGING

(Source: dumpyspaceprincess)

I got asked this tonight, and it made me uncomfortable, as it always does. I answered with a shrug and an “I don’t know…” and the person followed it up with a “you look good!” I have a lot of trouble synthesizing that, for a variety of reasons.
1) bodies are intensely personal. I don’t think it’s ever appropriate to ask someone about weight loss or weight gain, especially an acquaintance.
2) the follow up of “you look good” upsets me. Do I look less good if I weigh more? Does how good I look directly correlate with whether I’ve lost weight? The insinuation most people have that thinner=better is so obvious in even the most innocent remarks like this.
3) what if I have lost weight, but it’s because I’m working a full time job, a part time job, juggling 5 classes, a club, and being on a student leadership council? Is not having enough time to eat still “good”? Is the fact they my fridge and cupboards are mostly bare and I’m too poor to fill them “good”? What if I’d been ill and it caused me to lose weight? Is that good? The truth is you can never tell why a weight fluctuation in someone happened, and it’s really bad to assign positivity to a change in body size without knowing what a person is going through.
4) this person couldn’t just say “you look good?” And have that be it?Assigning moral value to body size will always make me uncomfortable. The person who did this meant no harm or ill will, but it just made me really think about how pervasive the message that “thinner is better” is.Y’all, unless you know for a fact that someone is actively trying to change their body weight and is looking for encouragement, don’t comment on their weight. It’s a big trigger for a lot of people. Your self worth and goodness is not tied to your pants size. Remember that!
PS: my favorite thing to reply when someone asks if I’ve lost weight is “oh gosh, I hope not!!” People are usually so shocked by that, it shuts them right up.
Love,
Amber
(reposted from my instagram, feel free to follow me @randomlancila!)

I got asked this tonight, and it made me uncomfortable, as it always does. I answered with a shrug and an “I don’t know…” and the person followed it up with a “you look good!” I have a lot of trouble synthesizing that, for a variety of reasons.


1) bodies are intensely personal. I don’t think it’s ever appropriate to ask someone about weight loss or weight gain, especially an acquaintance.


2) the follow up of “you look good” upsets me. Do I look less good if I weigh more? Does how good I look directly correlate with whether I’ve lost weight? The insinuation most people have that thinner=better is so obvious in even the most innocent remarks like this.


3) what if I have lost weight, but it’s because I’m working a full time job, a part time job, juggling 5 classes, a club, and being on a student leadership council? Is not having enough time to eat still “good”? Is the fact they my fridge and cupboards are mostly bare and I’m too poor to fill them “good”? What if I’d been ill and it caused me to lose weight? Is that good? The truth is you can never tell why a weight fluctuation in someone happened, and it’s really bad to assign positivity to a change in body size without knowing what a person is going through.


4) this person couldn’t just say “you look good?” And have that be it?
Assigning moral value to body size will always make me uncomfortable. The person who did this meant no harm or ill will, but it just made me really think about how pervasive the message that “thinner is better” is.
Y’all, unless you know for a fact that someone is actively trying to change their body weight and is looking for encouragement, don’t comment on their weight. It’s a big trigger for a lot of people. Your self worth and goodness is not tied to your pants size. Remember that!


PS: my favorite thing to reply when someone asks if I’ve lost weight is “oh gosh, I hope not!!” People are usually so shocked by that, it shuts them right up.

Love,

Amber

(reposted from my instagram, feel free to follow me @randomlancila!)

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Love,

Amber

curvaliciousfashion:

Attractive and Fat

Many of you have probably heard of the CEO of Abercrombie and Fitch’s controversial and flat out rude comments that the company doesn’t sell XL or XXL sizes for women because they want “cool” people to wear their clothes. Well, this blogger wrote an open letter to Jeffries and included these photos of herself and what is considered a “typical” male model body type. 

Some quotes from her letter:

“The only thing you’ve done through your comments (about thin being beautiful and only offering XL and XXL in your stores for men) is reinforce the unoriginal concept that fat women are social failures, valueless, and undesirable.”

“This is largely attributed to companies like yours that perpetuate the thought that fat women are not beautiful. This is inaccurate, but if someone were to look through your infamous catalog, they wouldn’t believe me.”

“P.P.S. You should know your Large t-shirt comfortably fits a size 22. You might want to work on that.”

This has to do with fashion, though perhaps not in the way this blog has so far posted. But this sort of confidence is the sort of thing that we want our choices in clothes to reflect. You should be able to wear whatever you want and feel confident - no matter what other people may say or think. 

FAT PEOPLE CAN BE HEALTHY

marfmellow:

humanwarlust:

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No. Fat people are ill.

Those two little black triangles on the right? Those are lungs. Those lungs are compressed to hell and back by all the fat surrounding them.

Compare those with the pair of beautiful, healthy lungs on the left.

Fat activists on tumblr always spout this shit how fat is healthy and how THEY are healthy. Yeah, no, they feel healthy now because they are young. Idiots like themselves do not understand how strong their bodies are. But, only because they are young. Youth means health, but what about 5 years down the line from now? 10 years? Yeah, it probably won’t go too well.

Also, when they quote sources, they cite other blogs that share their beliefs like they are some peer reviewed papers.

Disgusting. Absolutely disgusting.

I gotta quote Regan on this one, 

The VFHT:  The Vague Future Health Threat.

It sounds like this “Well, you may be healthy now, but it will catch up to you someday”.  They look triumphant because the VFHT is indefensible.

Now instead of completely quelling my rage and giving them the benefit of the doubt, I’m just fighting the urge to set this person on fire. It’s not just the person I’m talking to -  it’s also that this is the the 10 zillionth time I’ve heard this over the past 13years.  I’m still healthy and I’m starting to wonder if I’ll be 102 years old and still pressured to diet so that it doesn’t “catch up to me”.

I find this to be paternalist, ignorant, unsupported, and annoying for the following reasons:

1. Typically this person has already inaccurately assessed my current health (ie “Nobody can be healthy at your weight”) but now they want me to believe that they can accurately predict my future health.

2.  What is this “it” that will catch up to me?  I am not outrunning my fat – it’s all right here – I am not a thin woman covered in fat, I am a fat woman who is also a very fit athlete. So what’s going to catch up with me:  my perfect blood pressure, cholesterol, glucose and triglycerides?  My working out and eating healthy?  My strength, stamina, and flexibility?

3.  Everyone is going to die. There is a 100% chance.  I just happen to live in a culture where it almost doesn’t matter why I die – someone will blame it on my fat.  That doesn’t make it true.  This “it will catch up to you” claim is just not supported by the available science, and of all the people who’ve VFHT’d me in my life, NOT ONE has accepted my invitation to cite his/her research (including doctors).

4.  What if I changed the rules of the lottery so that if  you lost, you had to pay the lottery money as a penalty?  Now not only is your chance of winning infintesimmaly small,  but there is a near 100% chance that you’ll end up with LESS money than you had after you bought the ticket.  Would you play?  Now imagine that this isn’t your money we’re talking about – it’s your long term health.  There is not a single study that proves that any weight loss method is effective long term, but many studies indicate that weight cycling (yo-yo dieting) is less healthy than being obese.  Since diets have such an abysmal failure rate over statistically significant sample sizes, if I go on just 2 diets where I lose weight and gain it back (and I have a very high chance of doing just that both times), then I’ve likely damaged my current good health and endangered my future health on a roll of the dice that was obviously a losing bet from the beginning.  The person VFHTing me is asking that I do something they can’t prove is possible, for a reason they can’t prove is valid, with a very high percentage that I’ll end up less healthy at the end.  I’ll pass.

So what do you say to the VFHT?

Here are some possible responses broken down by category.  (As always, I never try to change someone else’s behavior. I ask for qualification and/or I set my boundaries and consequences. )

Quick and simple:

  • I find it inappropriate for you to make guesses about my future health.
  • My health is not your business.   (If, at this point, they bring up tax payer dollars or health care costs, I ask them for an itemized list of things for which their local, state, and federal taxes pay, or health problems that people develop for which causation cannot be proven;  broken down into categories of things they are happy to pay for, and things they don’t want to pay for. If they don’t happen to have that list on hand, I let them know that I’ll be happy to discuss it once they do.)

More detailed/scientific

  • I don’t know of a single statistically significant, properly controlled scientific study that supports that statement.  So, either cite your research or I’m going to assume that I know more about this than you do and you are just talking without actually knowing what you’re talking about.  (Or “talking out of your ass”, depending on my mood).
  • You have no way to know that.  Cite your research or I will assume that you are putting my health at risk by talking about things for which you have no actual knowledge or qualifications.  That is completely unacceptable to me.

The pointed response (feel free to mix and match questions/responses with boundary statements)

  • How dare you make assumptions about my health?  You may not discuss my health with me.
  • I find you completely unqualified to make that statement. Please keep your opinions about my health to yourself.
  • My health is not your business and you are not allowed to comment on it.
  • You will immediately stop making guesses and assumptions about my future health or this conversation is over.

The snarky responses (I don’t actually recommend these because I prefer some kind of productive conversation if possible, but it’s fun to think about)

  • I had no idea you could predict the future!   Would you mind giving me tomorrow’s lottery numbers?
  • Actually the fat doesn’t have to catch up with me – I keep it right here…unless you saw some back there that I lost?
  • I totally forgot that being thin makes me immortal – thank god you told me or I might have died some day.
  • I meant to tell you that I’m actually worried about you.  I read on a website that we are about to experience another ice age and without fat stores to keep you alive and warm, you’re absolutely going to freeze to death.  I know it sounds crazy but it was on the internet so you know it must be true and I’m going to tell everyone!

via danceswithfat

(Source: intestinalfortitude)

impsexual:

Because telling fat people that they are in fact humans that deserve dignity and respect automatically means you’re ~*GLORIFYING OBESITY*~

By the way, don’t dribble on to me saying you worry about a fat person’s ‘health’. That’s just a bullshit excuse to voice your unwanted opinion on a fat person’s body considering you wouldn’t give a single flying fuckadoodle about someone’s health if they were skinny. Besides another person’s health is none of your damned business anyway. Run along now and preach to a choir that actually cares.

I’m going to be honest, so long as you’re not hurting anyone, you can eat soy sauce and milk duds all day long for all I care.

EDIT: Let me say that I don’t think skinny people don’t get shit either. I’ve seen a lot of people saying that they get a lot of comments on their size because they’re seen as being unhealthy, too. Sorry about my poor choice of words. It sucks when people tell you that you’re not allowed to feel a certain way because you look a certain way (ie: your thin privilege means your feelings never get hurt you don’t know what it’s like!!!)