This is a place of encouragement, a place to discuss body image, insecurities, self-esteem, and everything under the umbrella of fighting self-hate and finding self-love.

No matter what you look like, what color, what gender, sexual orientation, what size or however many "flaws", healthy, not healthy, working on it, abled, disabled, we are all human, we all deserve to be happy, we all deserve to love ourselves. With this blog you will see all kinds of REAL bodies, REAL people, REAL stories.

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over the last few years i have struggled with my body image. i suffer from scoliosis (a hunched back) since i was 10. recently i have had some unrelated surgery which left me bed-bound and caused my to put on 15kgs. for a few months i ignored it and finally around christmas i snapped and became very unhappy with how i was looking. i spent another month in bed and over that time i came to realise that it doesnt matter what i look like anymore. whats important now is that i am striving towards being healthy! i still have days where i dont like to be reminded of my posture and extra flabby bits. 
i often have a hard time talking about it because i know to a lot of people it may look like theres nothing wrong with me. but the truth is i am just like everyone else who struggles with body image. a little support goes a long way!
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over the last few years i have struggled with my body image. i suffer from scoliosis (a hunched back) since i was 10. recently i have had some unrelated surgery which left me bed-bound and caused my to put on 15kgs. for a few months i ignored it and finally around christmas i snapped and became very unhappy with how i was looking. i spent another month in bed and over that time i came to realise that it doesnt matter what i look like anymore. whats important now is that i am striving towards being healthy! i still have days where i dont like to be reminded of my posture and extra flabby bits. 

i often have a hard time talking about it because i know to a lot of people it may look like theres nothing wrong with me. but the truth is i am just like everyone else who struggles with body image. a little support goes a long way!

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Hey babes!

I just wanted to quickly pimp out this AMAZING project called Pretty Sick Art that one of our longtime supporters, SarahCate is doing! She’s doing these gorgeous illustrations as you can see here for people who have various disabilities and chronic illnesses. It’s an awesome idea and brings great visibility to the chronic illness community!

Straight from the blog:

  • Why “Pretty Sick”? I belong to a group online called “Pretty Sick” the idea being that folks with chronic illness can still feel and present and enjoy being “pretty.” It’s a place that gives those with chronic issues a forum to share tips and advice not just about living with chronic pain and illness, but about makeup and hair and all the “pretty” things that society tends to not equate with these kinds of problems.

  • Why Illustrate the Chronically sick and disabled? Because there is an abhorrent lack of representation for folks with disabilities and chronic illnesses. I want to change that. But it’s not just about… posting a photo of yourself and hoping someone sees it. It’s about CREATING visibility. Creating ART featuring disabled bodies, creating ART featuring our mobility aids, service animals, medications even.

This blog deserves a lot more followers than it has, and she’s always looking for new submissions! She’s got quite a bit in the queue right now (and she’s only one person!) but the more visibility a project like this can get, the better! 

Also, check out Sarah’s online shop, or if you want to donate a little cash in exchange for an illustration, you can find her info here!

http://prettysickart.tumblr.com/

Love,

Amber :)

BODY POSITIVITY: PLEASE REBLOG!!! - (also trigger warning)

The past two weeks I participated in a body Image program for gay men. It was for the Psychology Dept. at my university and I really wanted to take part in it to broaden my horizons on this subject. The program was really amazing and for one of the”homework” exercises my group was asked to write a letter to an adolescent boy about pursuing the “ideal” body. I wrote mine so it could be gender neutral so I can include anyone going through this at a young age. My letter:

Life at this age can be very difficult when it should be fun, free and liberating. People your age can be quite harsh and society itself, through the media, can send mixed messages that can discourage you. Please realize that your body is a gift that you can call your own, so love it and cherish it the way you should. Once you learn to love your body you will soon be able to love yourself; and that is the greatest power that anybody could have. Don’t let anyone or anything tell you how you should look. If you ever want to change your image, do it for yourself and not for the outside world. The “perfect” bodies that you see in magazines are not at all perfect. Not only because they are manipulated and altered, but simply because the state of perfection is unachievable. To be perfect is to be devoid of all flaws. Since everybody has flaws, there is no such thing. It doesn’t exist. But you must learn to accept your flaws and love them because as much as people don’t say it: imperfection is true perfection. I wish someone could have given me encouraging words when I was a teenager because it was a truly hard time for a lot of people. But what I hope is that you take my words and heed them because it really does get better.

Love your body. And love yourself.

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Every time I walk out the door people stare at my body in a negative context. I have what I guess they call a “non-normative body” I was born with a physical disability called Cerebral Palsy. When people look at me all they see a girl with canes, to them my body  appears “Non-normal” but I would say its strongly mismatched with my identity. I have never truly felt limited by my disablility or that I walk with canes. My Disability has never defined me I’ve defined my own normal. I may have to use canes but my soul and mind are not disabled. I’ve never had insecurity when it comes to being a person that has Cerebral Palsy, I have had insecurities with things that go with this such as: that my arms seem so big compared to the rest of my body for carrying my body weight for 29 years, or that my hands are covered in callouses from using canes. I mean this is what comes with having a  disabled body right? What can I do to fix it? 
I wasn’t sure how to fix those things but what I was sure was that I could prove myself and show that my body isn’t the limit of what I can do! Inside this body was a lust for all things great in this world, great conversation, great friends and great adventures. I would use my energy to focus on the good that I can do then the negativity that usually comes with how I am viewed. I have been in Mosh Pits at Rock concerts, worked on movie sets, and just signed up to run a 5k! There is nothing I can’t do! I’ve taught middle school kids and started my own business. 
   I’ve had a lot of negativity thrown my way with my body from society, peers, and relationships that has caused me to not think that a disabled body can be beautiful. Instead of thinking of my own thoughts of my body I spent most time fighting what society perceives of me more. We live in a  superficial world where people are judge based on whats on the outside. Well when they see me they think I’m not smart, or that I can’t do things, Illness repulses and people don’t want a part of that. So I’ve spend more time saying "hey my mind and soul are beautiful" and while that is the most important by far you know what my body is beautiful too! 
   People have often told me I was beautiful but I thought it was because they felt sorry for me because of my disability. My friends and family said it to me often but I never gave it much thought. I know that I am beautiful on the inside and thats truly all that ever mattered to me. I never looked in the mirror and thought “yeah I’m beautiful.”
Which is funny because I think it is essential that we create a world where people feel okay in their bodies, express themselves through their bodies, and feel comfortable navigating this world in their body, I support health at every size yet I go around covering up my own tummy and arms.  I loved the beach but I was so scared to show off so much you would never see me in a swimsuit. (look at me now! yay!) 
 I am just now learning what it means to inhabit my body. It wasn’t until I could see myself through a guy I had a relationship with that I started to see the things he loved and didn’t understand about my body, soul, and mind that it got me thinking about them as well. Having him call me beautiful causes me to now look in the mirror saying he was right I am beautiful. Him not understanding my body and ultimately ending things has made me become more in tune with who I am as a whole package. I’ve often felt insecure that I had tummy and tried to do things about it but when I started to explore yoga and work out I realized “I have no core muscle due to my Cerebral Palsy!” but that doesn’t mean I can’t work to have it! 
   Having a person show me that all of me is indeed beautiful makes it easier for me to navigate the tumultuous world we live in. My only hope is to now do that for someone else. It doesn’t happen right away. Do things that make you feel good. Try a new beauty thing, take some fun photos. Have insecurities with a part of your body? Show it off more! Don’t give it the power! One day I will lose all my insecurities and today is a step in that, next the end of all of insecurities!! 


http://www.tumblr.com/blog/kellsinlalaland
BE BRAVE! JOIN THE BODY PEACE REVOLUTION!

Every time I walk out the door people stare at my body in a negative context. I have what I guess they call a “non-normative body” I was born with a physical disability called Cerebral Palsy. When people look at me all they see a girl with canes, to them my body  appears “Non-normal” but I would say its strongly mismatched with my identity. I have never truly felt limited by my disablility or that I walk with canes. My Disability has never defined me I’ve defined my own normal. I may have to use canes but my soul and mind are not disabled. I’ve never had insecurity when it comes to being a person that has Cerebral Palsy, I have had insecurities with things that go with this such as: that my arms seem so big compared to the rest of my body for carrying my body weight for 29 years, or that my hands are covered in callouses from using canes. I mean this is what comes with having a  disabled body right? What can I do to fix it? 

I wasn’t sure how to fix those things but what I was sure was that I could prove myself and show that my body isn’t the limit of what I can do! Inside this body was a lust for all things great in this world, great conversation, great friends and great adventures. I would use my energy to focus on the good that I can do then the negativity that usually comes with how I am viewed. I have been in Mosh Pits at Rock concerts, worked on movie sets, and just signed up to run a 5k! There is nothing I can’t do! I’ve taught middle school kids and started my own business. 

   I’ve had a lot of negativity thrown my way with my body from society, peers, and relationships that has caused me to not think that a disabled body can be beautiful. Instead of thinking of my own thoughts of my body I spent most time fighting what society perceives of me more. We live in a  superficial world where people are judge based on whats on the outside. Well when they see me they think I’m not smart, or that I can’t do things, Illness repulses and people don’t want a part of that. So I’ve spend more time saying "hey my mind and soul are beautiful" and while that is the most important by far you know what my body is beautiful too! 

   People have often told me I was beautiful but I thought it was because they felt sorry for me because of my disability. My friends and family said it to me often but I never gave it much thought. I know that I am beautiful on the inside and thats truly all that ever mattered to me. I never looked in the mirror and thought “yeah I’m beautiful.”

Which is funny because I think it is essential that we create a world where people feel okay in their bodies, express themselves through their bodies, and feel comfortable navigating this world in their body, I support health at every size yet I go around covering up my own tummy and arms.  I loved the beach but I was so scared to show off so much you would never see me in a swimsuit. (look at me now! yay!) 

 I am just now learning what it means to inhabit my body. It wasn’t until I could see myself through a guy I had a relationship with that I started to see the things he loved and didn’t understand about my body, soul, and mind that it got me thinking about them as well. Having him call me beautiful causes me to now look in the mirror saying he was right I am beautiful. Him not understanding my body and ultimately ending things has made me become more in tune with who I am as a whole package. I’ve often felt insecure that I had tummy and tried to do things about it but when I started to explore yoga and work out I realized “I have no core muscle due to my Cerebral Palsy!” but that doesn’t mean I can’t work to have it! 

   Having a person show me that all of me is indeed beautiful makes it easier for me to navigate the tumultuous world we live in. My only hope is to now do that for someone else. It doesn’t happen right away. Do things that make you feel good. Try a new beauty thing, take some fun photos. Have insecurities with a part of your body? Show it off more! Don’t give it the power! One day I will lose all my insecurities and today is a step in that, next the end of all of insecurities!! 

http://www.tumblr.com/blog/kellsinlalaland

I’ve been in a wheelchair my entire life.  Most people think the hardest part of being in one is not being able to walk, to run, to dance.  But for me, it’s always been the fact that no matter what, I will never have a body that society deems beautiful.
 
My back curves in multiple directions. My arms are large and muscular, while my legs are scrawny.  My medication makes it so my skin can only burn, not tan.  My little feet will never look “normal” or be able to fit well in heels.  My body is covered in surgery scars.  And yes, being unable to walk/run/dance would be nice, but mainly because it would give me the ability to burn calories more easily.  I naturally burn about 1000 calories per day, yet I need more protein and carbs than the average person.
 
Despite these things, I still love my body. I love my DD boobs even if they could be perkier.  I love my butt even if I can’t show it off as well as others.  I love my eyes.  I even love the roundness of my face.  But most importantly, I love my intelligence, my generosity, and my ability to make anybody laugh.

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I’ve been in a wheelchair my entire life.  Most people think the hardest part of being in one is not being able to walk, to run, to dance.  But for me, it’s always been the fact that no matter what, I will never have a body that society deems beautiful.

 
My back curves in multiple directions. My arms are large and muscular, while my legs are scrawny.  My medication makes it so my skin can only burn, not tan.  My little feet will never look “normal” or be able to fit well in heels.  My body is covered in surgery scars.  And yes, being unable to walk/run/dance would be nice, but mainly because it would give me the ability to burn calories more easily.  I naturally burn about 1000 calories per day, yet I need more protein and carbs than the average person.
 
Despite these things, I still love my body. I love my DD boobs even if they could be perkier.  I love my butt even if I can’t show it off as well as others.  I love my eyes.  I even love the roundness of my face.  But most importantly, I love my intelligence, my generosity, and my ability to make anybody laugh.
My disabled body is BEAUTIFUL. 
When I was sixteen years old, I was diagnosed with a chronic pain disorder, and for the past six years it has gotten gradually worse, going from something that caused discomfort to something that caused severe pain as well as a whole assortment of other not-so-fun side effects.
Somewhere between my diagnosis and now, I started hating my body. I had spent years on diets, having never been happy with it to begin with, but I began to learn a new lesson: it is hard to love your body when it is at war with itself. 
I’ve recently began to rethink my relationship with my body, and I’ve come to one major conclusion: my body is on my side. I can hate the disorder that has done this to me, but my body and I are fighting these battles together, so I shouldn’t hate it. 
I’m disabled. But that doesn’t change the fact that I am gorgeous. 
BE BRAVE! JOIN THE BODY PEACE REVOLUTION!

My disabled body is BEAUTIFUL. 

When I was sixteen years old, I was diagnosed with a chronic pain disorder, and for the past six years it has gotten gradually worse, going from something that caused discomfort to something that caused severe pain as well as a whole assortment of other not-so-fun side effects.

Somewhere between my diagnosis and now, I started hating my body. I had spent years on diets, having never been happy with it to begin with, but I began to learn a new lesson: it is hard to love your body when it is at war with itself. 

I’ve recently began to rethink my relationship with my body, and I’ve come to one major conclusion: my body is on my side. I can hate the disorder that has done this to me, but my body and I are fighting these battles together, so I shouldn’t hate it. 

I’m disabled. But that doesn’t change the fact that I am gorgeous. 

BE BRAVE! JOIN THE BODY PEACE REVOLUTION!

wheeliewifee:

a wheelie day at the beach!! 

(as neat as this chair looks, it actually kind of sucked, lol. The tires were partially deflated and so it wouldn’t roll worth a damn. D pushed me as far as he could, and then I stood up and used it as a walker. Accessibility fail! Once I got close to the water it was amazing though :) It gave me a nice seat for a beautiful view!)

Before going on vacation I experienced a lot of mixed emotions. I was DELIGHTED at the idea of a beach-accessible wheelchair, but I was incredibly anxious on the body-image front… 

You see, sitting is not a very flattering position for anyone, especially someone with a belly like mine ;) and the idea of having every single vacation photo (including swimsuit shots) at that angle scared the daylights out of me, I found my self-consciousness over my body overshadowing my positive experiences and excitement. 

Then, I decided that was not okay. 

I told my husband to go ahead and take pictures, and not to worry about avoiding double-chins and visible-belly-outlines; I told him, instead, to try to capture my joy and love of the ocean. 

As a result, I now have gorgeous photographs, taken by my talented spouse, that capture my amazing experience. 

Who cares if I might look fat?? 


Take care of yourselves this summer, lovelies. and like Amber always says- remember that any body is a “beach body”! :)

Stacy

You folks had a fantastic response to Amber’s post about my little shop, and as a show of gratitude I thought I’d pass along the info for the big SALE we are having right now! 

It is our one year anniversary this month, and so for the entire month of June we are offering 20% off the total of any purchase. 

Just use coupon code: “1YEARSUPERSALE” at checkout. 

As an extra bonus, we are also giving away FREE GIFTS with every order over $30! Each gift is valued up to $40. 

All custom orders are offered at a SALE price right now, as well. So feel free to request your own unique piece. 

I am so glad that I can spread my body positive message through Tumblr AND Etsy; thank you for helping me get the word out and for supporting this disabled artist ;) 

https://www.etsy.com/shop/ThePaperPoppyStore

https://www.etsy.com/shop/ThePaperPoppyStore

https://www.etsy.com/shop/ThePaperPoppyStore

Take care, lovelies!

-Stacy