This is a place of encouragement, a place to discuss body image, insecurities, self-esteem, and everything under the umbrella of fighting self-hate and finding self-love.

No matter what you look like, what color, what gender, sexual orientation, what size or however many "flaws", healthy, not healthy, working on it, abled, disabled, we are all human, we all deserve to be happy, we all deserve to love ourselves. With this blog you will see all kinds of REAL bodies, REAL people, REAL stories.

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severussnake:

talk-to-trees:

mirrorwoman:

annieelainey:

TOP 5 SHYB Frequently Asked Questions:

4) How do I overcome my fear of being seen/fear of visibility?

Here are some activities that in my experience have helped! 

Growing up incredibly shy, I was always afraid that people would see me and be offended by the fact that I looked different from everyone else. I was afraid that they would see me and think that I was ugly. After recovering from anorexia during my freshman year of high school, I realized that I should not only learn to accept myself for who I am and how I was made but also LOVE myself for my individuality. Once you are able to love yourself and take pride in who you are, other people will begin to love and respect you as well. 

this girl extremely wise and beautiful and has a lovely voice. great video :)))

HEY HEY HEY THIS IS AMAZING AND IMPORTANT AND SHE IS RIGHT IT ALL COMES DOWN TO PRACTICE IT GETS BETTER YOU JUST GOTTA KEEP CHALLENGING YOURSELF 

katiescarlettspeaks:

HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY ANNIE ELAINEY!


Those who follow me or know me personally know that one of my favourite people in the world is Annie. You may know her from her youtube channel or her tumblr- or maybe one of the most widely known tumblr sites called STOPHATINGYOURBODY.

So when I heard this song by Katy Perry floating around this week I just heard a song that screamed Annie:

"I have the eye of the tiger, a fighter, dancing through the fire- cuz I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me roar, louder, louder than a lion"

For someone who made her own roar heard when she decided to fight for body positivity and self love, she is someone who helped put a voice to a revolution.

TO LOVE OUR BODIES!


So if you are feeling lost, or down, or hurt in anyway give this song a listen and remember that you are powerful and worth putting up a fight- and sometimes we have to fight for ourselves, be that by eliminating toxic people from our lives or finally taking charge of your life and living how you want to.

If you all appreciate Annie for this website please send her messages and let her know that, make her birthday super special this year!

FOLLOW ANNIE:

 http://annieelainey.tumblr.com

http://twitter.com/annieelainey

http://facebook.com/annesegarra

annieelainey:

Q&A Wednesday: How did you become so confident?

Warning: Touch a bit on disordered eating, destructive behavior, and I throw the F-bomb around a bit so….

EDIT: Been asked about the progressive “activities” I was referring to:

  • Dressing up/photoshoots
  • Minimizing exposure to media (tv, radio, etc)
  • Excluding poisonous people from my life, lots of solitude for a while
  • Wearing a bikini at the beach (even though I was scared)
  • Learning to be body positive (health looks different on every body, “fat” is not an insult)
  • Traveling/vacation alone

annieelainey:

Trigger Warning: body image

Probably the best thing I’ve ever learned in my life is to love myself no matter what body I am in.

For so long, I’d look in the mirror seeing something that wasn’t really there, I was of the belief that I was monstrously ugly, that people were disgusted by my fat, my face, the color of my skin. I lived in that belief and it affected me every single day, it haunted my every thought, every time I would walk into a room I thought everyone would rather I leave, as opposed to having to look at me. I remember the days when I would cry because I’d been invited to a pool party, in fear of being seen in a bathing suit. I remember crying in fear of ever being seen in lingerie. 

These are irrational fears, not just for me, but for anyone. No matter what body you are in, if you want to wear a swimsuit, WEAR A SWIMSUIT. This is not a story about how I changed my size and felt better about myself, because well, that didn’t happen. This is a story about how I changed the way I thought about myself to feel better about myself. 

The first time I wore a bikini to the beach, I was still terrified and uncomfortable, but it was a step that needed to be taken. I needed to see that at the end of the day, it is not a big deal if my tummy and legs jiggle when I run, or that my tummy rolls when I sit down, or you can see my cellulite. THIS HAPPENS AND IT’S OKAY!!

Here’s some truth, there WILL be people out there that will judge you, that will dislike you because of your size, your skin color, etc. But it’s definitely not everyone and even if it were you don’t need to worry about them. Your life isn’t FOR THEM. Your life is for you! YOU are in this body! YOU deserve to be happy and live your life as you wish and they have NO say in the matter. Do not give ignorant, cruel people, the power to cage you. Be free. There WILL be people who will love you.

It seriously causes me such pain to see people go through what I went through, to see people in pain because of their self-perception. I hope that no matter what body you are in, you will face your fears, and you will understand that you deserve to love your body no matter what it looks like, no matter what is going on, the least you can do is feel good about yourself, give yourself that much, allow yourself to smile and to feel happy!

Love,

Annie

annieelainey:

Don’t ever be afraid of your bikinis, girls!
Love your bodies, love yourselves, be confident and just have fun! Life is too short for self-loathing!
You deserve to be happy! So embrace your body! Be thankful for what you have! You are ALIVE!! Take a DEEP breath. You feel that air? The oxygen filling up your lungs. That’s beautiful.
You have all the opportunities in the world! You can do anything! I know that there is darkness in the world, there are cruel people, and shitty circumstances. But the world keeps spinning, it’s not gonna stop, every day is a new day, full of new opportunities and we should all take advantage. I know it can hurt, I know what it’s like to want to die because of how much it hurts… but you can turn it all around. You find joy in life no matter what your circumstances! It’s not over until it’s over, and there is so much LIFE out there for you to explore!
You are beautiful. Your life is beautiful. Take another breath, inhale positivity and light, let it attach itself to your lungs. Exhale, pain and anger, push it all out. You’re doing it, you’re surviving and you can love yourself and you can be happy.
I DON’T CARE WHAT YOU WEIGH OR WHAT INSECURITIES YOU HAVE! PROMISE ME YOU’RE GOING TO TRY AND LOVE YOUR BODY THIS SUMMER! PROMISE ME YOU’RE GOING WERQ WHAT YOU’VE GOT!!
http://annieelainey.tumblr.com
BE BRAVE! JOIN THE REVOLUTION!

annieelainey:

Don’t ever be afraid of your bikinis, girls!

Love your bodies, love yourselves, be confident and just have fun! Life is too short for self-loathing!

You deserve to be happy! So embrace your body! Be thankful for what you have! You are ALIVE!! Take a DEEP breath. You feel that air? The oxygen filling up your lungs. That’s beautiful.

You have all the opportunities in the world! You can do anything! I know that there is darkness in the world, there are cruel people, and shitty circumstances. But the world keeps spinning, it’s not gonna stop, every day is a new day, full of new opportunities and we should all take advantage. I know it can hurt, I know what it’s like to want to die because of how much it hurts… but you can turn it all around. You find joy in life no matter what your circumstances! It’s not over until it’s over, and there is so much LIFE out there for you to explore!

You are beautiful. Your life is beautiful. Take another breath, inhale positivity and light, let it attach itself to your lungs. Exhale, pain and anger, push it all out. You’re doing it, you’re surviving and you can love yourself and you can be happy.

I DON’T CARE WHAT YOU WEIGH OR WHAT INSECURITIES YOU HAVE! PROMISE ME YOU’RE GOING TO TRY AND LOVE YOUR BODY THIS SUMMER! PROMISE ME YOU’RE GOING WERQ WHAT YOU’VE GOT!!

http://annieelainey.tumblr.com

BE BRAVE! JOIN THE REVOLUTION!