Posts tagged acceptance
Posts tagged acceptance
The body positivity community online is wonderful, I notice it particularly with my time spent on tumblr, especially working with Stop Hating Your Body. However, something that I’ve noticed in this community is that there seems to be two types of body that are talked about quite a lot. The thin women and the fat women. Now, like I said before I love all of these women I’ve interacted with and I love the discussions brought forward by people online about the issues of Health At Every Size, Fatphobia, Privilege, etc. My problem, which is purely personal, is that I don’t really know where I fit in.This becomes very pronounced when I go shopping.
I am a tall girl (5’10), I also have a large ass (that I love), however I also have a small torso and tiny breasts. This makes for difficult shopping. In pants I range from a size 12-14 depending on the store I go to, which when you only have straight clothing shops in your area can prove difficult, especially since a size 12 at H&M is really a size 8. The plus sized fashion industry begins right at my size, however when I’ve gone into plus sized stores I find that their sizes truly begin at 16, which leaves hanging out to dry. I also have a hard time finding dresses or skirts because of my height, everything is so short on me, they could easily be shirts not dresses! I see pictures throughout the blogsphere of thin girls in beautiful clothing, and fat girls in beautiful clothing, but it takes a lot of hunting for me to find women who look like me and are average. I just want others to know that they’re not alone in this confusion, and if anyone has any recommendations of clothing stores, or blogs I could follow that would help please let me know :D
This weekend I hosted a party at my house for 7 young girls who were 14 heading into high school in the fall.
I did this because I went through a lot of self hatred, self harm, an bad relationship, all on top of school work and it was really, really hard. So I wanted to have a night to be real and hang out with these girls and give them some advice on how to better love themselves and have a better high school experience…
It was wonderful! They all loved it and want to do it again, and they really loved being able to talk about issues that were pressing on them and frustrated them.
But at the same time it was also sad, because every single one of these 7 girls was upset about some aspect of their bodies, their stomachs weren’t flat enough, their eyes were too far apart, they looked to young, they had ugly hair, they hated their chests… The list could go on and on, and it’s so sad that this is the case for almost every girl I know at this age.
Girls, I write this to you today to say:
You are beautiful, you are worthy of all the love you receive and you are worthy of so much more than even that!
Your stomachs are beautiful at any size, your eyes are gorgeous, your hair is wonderful, you, yes you… are AHMAYZINGGGGGGG!
Take time to work on your heart and your mind, and in time you will be able to see this on a daily basis.
You. Are. Wonderful.
I’ll be wearing this, and looking like this, and if you’re still thinking its not me, I have bright blue waterproof eyeliner on!!!
So if you’re around don’t be afraid to say hi <3
LOVE YOUR BODY! ESPECIALLY IN DISNEY WORLD!
A long time ago when I was in therapy my doctor suggested the possible idea of using my art skills to release my temptations when it came to self harm and self hate, be it the physical harm I wanted to do to myself or the emotional verbal harm. His idea was I should create a trigger page in my journal or sketchbook and write out or draw all of the things I wanted to do or say.
Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes, and personality is the same. Everyone is different, beautiful, unique and special and this photo shoot was done to prove just that!
Negativity will NOT HOLD US DOWN, WILL NOT TEAR AWAY OUR DREAMS, WILL NOT DESTROY US. WE WILL RISE ABOVE BULLYING, SELF HATE and WHAT THE MEDIA TELLS US TO BELIEVE!
*sigh* I just typed this whole long thing up, and tumblr logged me out and lost all of it -_-, so here it goes again!
I’m going to take you all back in time to a place called elementary school, a death trap filled with ignorance, arrogance and uneducated shit heads (pardon my french). I can distinctly remember a time as a 12 year old at the lunch table with most of my class discussing weight and how heavy or light everyone was. Now in my home we didn’t have a scale because my mom thought it promoted poor thinking, which I appreciate now knowing how dangerous those contraptions are. However, with a recent visit to the doctor for a regular checkup I knew that I was 150 pounds at 12 years old, now at the time I was already 5’6 bordering 5’7 and I was a completely healthy weight for my body and my doctor had no advice for my perfectly healthy self… However at the lunch table I learned something totally different, the number of the scale defined how skinny or fat you were and it also defined you as a person. I being naive and unsure of what I was getting myself into stated casually that I was 150 pounds, to the surprise of my classmates who all looked at me googly eyed and in awe… “I’m 100, 108, 120 at most” came from the mouths of all of my much shorter, skinnier classmates and I instantly knew I was wrong, weird and really fat. Deemed “Shamoo” for the rest of my adolescent career I knew that I was a disgusting chunk of lard that irritated people with my fatness.
(^ The girl on the far left is me, at age 13 still the owner of the nickname Shamoo)
Now this curse isn’t just the fault of young ignorant children who have no concept of weight, and health and beauty, it’s something that they have learned from their parents and the media. My mother, someone who belongs to the health industry even said to me one time just by looking at me that 160 pounds should be what I aim for at my height… Which was TOTALLY off base! If I weighed 150 almost 160 pounds in the photo above at 5’7 does it really make sense that I should weight that amount at 5’10 bordering 5’11? No, not at all! And this goes to show my point! Weight cannot be determined by looking at someone alone, you must know all of their physical details before making this assumption and that job belongs to the owner of this skin and their doctor who helps them determine their nutritional needs! Not you, a parent, or a friend, or a bystander who believes that your arrogant and condescending opinions help or even change the victims ways.
With a visit to my doctor I found out that my current weight of 185 is healthy for my size and if I would like to work out more that would be fine but going anywhere below 175 would be dangerous for me in particular!
So to all of you who believe you can judge a book by it’s cover, learn that you cannot at all! And stop trying to give your advice to people on how they should treat themselves or their bodies, because you have absolutely NO IDEA!
Love always, the girl with natural rolls, thunder thighs and small breasts.
I know many of you are aware of the struggle with Self Harm that many people have and I work with a youtube channel called Self Harm Support. Our main goal is to aid people in the long journey of recovery and give insight to those who don’t understand SH a better grasp of what it is and how to help the friends or family that may be faced with it!
This week we’re having trouble with our youtube channel because of the channels new makeover thanks to Youtube, which means that most of the questions we were using for this week were misplaced…erased? We’re not too sure haha.
MY PLEAD FOR HELP FROM ALL OF YOU IS:
Do you have questions revolving around the issue of Self Harm? Do you not understand it? Or do you want help with something involving recovery?
ANY QUESTIONS AT ALL!
We need some for this weeks videos and I’d love if you’d all send them to my ask box at: KATIE’S ASK BOX
It would help us so much! Thank you!
- All my love: Katie
Remember this loves, always <3 <3
You’re all amazing people, and sometimes you have to separate yourself from society in order to live the way you want to live! You’re all amazing :) FIND OUT WHAT YOU’RE PASSIONATE ABOUT, WHO YOU LOVE, WHO YOU ARE!!!!
Have you ever noticed that you find out new things about yourself good or bad when you step out of your comfort zone, willingly or forced?
Trying a new dish at a restaurant may have you excited and falling into a sashimi craze, plucking up the courage to talk to someone new may be an opening for an amazing friendship?
I think the best part of growing is taking risks with ourselves to push and see how far we’ll go, but also how it will help us as well.
For the longest time I’ve pondered the idea of shaving my head and tomorrow is finally the day that I take the plunge and cut it all off!
I’ve decided to do this as a final act of self discovery for myself for the past year. I’ve learned how to accept my body in all of its forms, lazy saturdays eating chips Katie, to bikini Katie, to any Katie ever. Which was something that I couldn’t have ever dreamed of before finding SHYB or all of the other sites and friends I’ve made online! I was accepted as an admin on this site which is so wonderful and has taught me so much about myself and I’m so happy to be apart of it. This is just one more step of finding out something new lying under this skin :)
I’m trying to slowly break the mould of beauty by showing the world that long locks, or any locks at all don’t have to define your beauty, you are stunning regardless! LOOK AT NATALIE PORTMAN FOR GODSAKE! The chick is stunning as fuck, and I personally think shes hotter bald than any other style she’s rocked!
I know it’s not for everyone, but I’m just so excited!
Tomorrow I’ll update you all with the pics and the initial feelings of baldness, so excited!
TA TA FOR NOW! <3
One thing that I don’t think is preached about enough is LOVE.
We can try to love our bodies.
We can try to love our personalities.
We can try to love our hips and buts and tummies…
But we can’t truly love any one part of us unless we love each other and send love out into the world.
When you bring positivity into your life no matter how hard it may be at first, you notice a change. The world has a new flare that you didn’t see when it was masked by sadness and negativity.
Take hold of your live, make changes and LOVE!!!
- Katie (awonderinthetardis.tumblr.com)
Hello all! I’d just like to inform you guys that I plan on selling prints of my photography as a way to raise money for my fundraiser for Girls Inc.
You can contact me about prints and sizes and costs here: ASK
And if you’re curious at all about my fundraiser and it’s purpose feel free to click HERE!
:) It would mean so much to me if you guys would check out my photography blog in hopes that we could fundraise for Girls Inc! Please don’t feel pressured to buy anything but spread the word!
I hope to be hosting a contests in the future as well!
Spread love, spread beauty, and spread kindness!
<3 - Katie
Take this day as your own and own your happiness.
You control it guys! <3 - Kate
Yesterday I went shopping…
Beyond that, shopping is a hugely difficult thing for me, especially living in today society where plus sizes are frowned upon and anything below a size 8 is acceptable. Now, I’ve been a size 8 and up since grade 6, I’m 5’10, I have birthing hips, and I’ve got a “J-Lo…
Hey everyone! My submission for Fuck Yeah Chubby Fashion went through today and I just want to take a moment to advertise their site! If you’re looking for fashion advice or some help with how to clothe your body it’s a great place to go and look for inspiration! It helped me a lot and I just find it to be really powerful and helpful with esteem and what not!
I hope you’re all having a body positive day, and if not? I hope you change that by saying to yourself that you’re all BEAUTIFUL!
Love you all!
- Katie Scarlett